Have I relapsed?

I made a decision to follow NoFap on July 20th. I recognized that my inability to cum during sex encounters with women was due to my addiction to porn and excessive masturbation. I couldn't cum with a woman no matter what they tried, oral sex, hand jobs, intercourse, etc. So I stopped masturbating and watching porn. It felt great at first, and I not only that but I felt much more confident with speaking to people in general.

A little over a week ago the urges and blue balls became pretty unbearable, including the frequent erections. I went a strip club a few times so at least I would physically be with a woman during a lap dance, and afterward I decided to masturbate without porn twice, although I was definitely fantasizing about the strippers with was with. I wasn't quite sure if this counted as a relapse, since I was with a real person.

Well, a few days later I had sex with a new female partner, and was finally able to cum with a condom during intercouse, something which I have never been able to do before. It did take a bit of a awhile, but I was relieved when this happened. I wondered whether or not I had been cured?

Well I had another sexual encounter with her again last night, and I couldn't cum during sex with a condom. Ultimately she gave me a hand job and I was able to finally cum, but my frustrations and anxieties again resurfaced.

Where do I stand now? Do I start over at day zero today? I thought I was making progress but I feel somehow that this is a sign of a terrible relapse. I think I really need an outlet to funnel my sexual energy instead of indulging in fantasy encounters with women, even if they are real. I guess I can try exercise, or running or biking.

My goal is to have normal sexual relations with a woman, and to be able to cum during sex with a condom. Not being able to has made my sexual life so awkward, and awkward for the women I have been with. I would love to blame condoms, since part of the problem is the desensitizing effects of condoms, but I know that the excessive masturbation is the reason why.

Thought anyone?