I had three wet dreams. The first was on day 10, but I'm not too concerned over that one. The wet dream I'm concerned with is the one I had on day 21, and then I had another one on day 22. Basically, I had two wet dreams around the same time. Does this count for a relapse? Crazy how I had three wet dreams within one streak.
No WET DREAMS don't fall in the category of RELASPE. Its ok to have wet dreams me myself had too. Before I started NoFap then also I had wet dreams. Again when I started NoFap I got the same issue wet dream. See when you reboot your brain will act in a strange way and wet dream is also a part of that, as because you are bow trying to get rid of that negtive pleasure thorugh PMO. Through constant feeding of porn and masturbation for considerable period of time your brain has gone to a particular state now you are combating it therefore these will happen. But believe me after sometime these things will occur less or even fade away. Don't get frustated over wet dreams, your are in the right path so keep up. AGAIN WET DREAMS DOESN'T COUNT AS RELASPE.
Thank you, I'm glad that these wet dreams won't slow down the recovery, and I appreciate your reply. I'll keep going.
Yeah, wet dreams definitely are NOT a relapse. Do you experience negative emotions following a wet dream as well?
Not really, I don't really think it's a reset, but sometimes it feels a bit like I should reset. I don't really experience any guilt afterwards.
Good point on bringing up these negative feelings concept. Before I started NoFap I used to have wet dreams this is because at some point I used to masturbate frequently but now thats history. For this wet dreams at one point I was very much frustated and been to medical help but then also it didn't fetch any result. The feeling after having wet dream is like sh*t, sometimes I became angry. Then also sometimes a fear crippled my mind that when I use to visit places like relatives home or some place then there it might happen and I would be ashamed and it happened also quite sometime. After I started NoFap then again also I had wet dreams. in this context I was frustated even more than previous situation. It made me very angry but then I consulted here in the forum, searched net, etc and came to conclusion that its nothing to get very angry about or make a fuss out of it. I continued my journey then at some points it occured but somehow my anger was in control and I was not even fussing like I used to do before. Now I see my wet dreams encounter have become significantly less and if it occur again I will try to pass on.
Another thing 23 days without PMO, thats great. Try to focus on this and yes enjoy this success of 23 days. Keep Up.
Thanks, I really do feel like I'm give my all on this streak, and I've been feeling like I'm changing, and living my life to the fullest extent. I don't see myself turning back, because I actually am enjoying my journey. 90 days is just the beginning, I'm planning to make history.
Here's a nice tip one person said before on this website. It went something along the lines of: "There will be times when the waters will seem very calm, but far up ahead is a massive tsunami." I have found this saying to be consistently true, so always keep your eyes out.
You're right, when everything seems like it's falling in to place, you might have a overly optimistic attitude, which might not fair well in the future, because, you might fall down, and you will end up disappointed, because you aimed to high and missed. I have a tendency to spread myself too thin, from just thinking of the possibilities I have. So I really do need to take this advice in, and be more reasonable about my goals. Sometimes, enthusiasm can be one of the biggest delusions out there, I want to thank you for pointing this out. I'll try to do better.
So - I've read a few forum posts on this topic, and the general consensus is that Wet Dreams are nothing to worry about. So why do they still feel like a failure to me? I'll tell you why I feel that way - and hopefully you guys can either empathise or counter. When I wet dream, I normally wake up straight after feeling ashamed(or guilty) - not because of the wet dream, but because I have been let down by my sub-conscious. I am doing everything I can to control, improve and mitigate all the triggers and opportunities for PM during my conscious periods, but it is having little effect on my sub-conscious. Deep down my brain is still addicted to visualisation leading to orgasm - how is this different to PMO? I have had 3 now in 70 days of NoFap, and each one feels like a setback. I would not worry that much if I had a wet dream without being cognisant of my thoughts in the lead up to the emission. From those I remember, they are sexual, normally intercourse and often with a visualisation of my wife. But ofr some one who is committed to no PMO for at least 90 days to retrain my brain each of these WD feel like an O, and thus a setback. Should I consider it as such? Is my brain really rebooting - or is the subconscious still stuck? I would appreciate your feedback.. LP
Simply put you out so much emphasis on no O that when it does happen, you feel terrible. You shouldn't though because there's nothing you can do about them. It's just like letting a pot overflow with water. It'll just happen if the water keeps running. Again a symptom of recovery, and further control on this subject.
Just look at it this way: What you are doing is abstaining from an addiction. That addiction involves masterbation and porn, along with lots of self sexual pleasure and "dopamine." Fighting this addiction rewires your brain. A wet dream is nothing compared to PM when it comes to addiction, it's just your subconscious playing out. You have no control over it. Every hour that you don't PM is another hour stronger you become. A wet dream is such a slight scratch.
Cheers for your words guys, I'll work though it. Still happy to make it this far, and really trusting in the process. Really shitty with myself that it took this long to realise I had an addiction. Even that realisation took some time to dawn, and to be truthful - so far I haven't even contemplated PM. This brain of ours is weird. Good luck on your Journeys...
