Hearing my neighbors having sex

I understand man... I used to have to hear my house mates get fucked when I was 14-17, made me feel really shitty. Even today I kind of tear up everytime I see a really beautiful girl with some other guy because I start thinking of what I'm missing out on.

Just remember, you are the author of your book. The past has no causality on the future

 

Me too I've heard countless people having sex in some awkward situation or another but I realize now that o have to worry about myself and the grass isn't always greener on the other side you never know that both could end up getting hurt in the end if it's not a serious relationship someone could always feels used or taken advantage

 

"Attractiveness" is relative and its not limited by looks. There´s tons of things that helps to improve it (gym, eating healthier, better dressing, haircutt, bear, etc) but the most important thing you can do to be attractive is to FEEL attractive. The main quality that makes women receptive to you is your CONFINDENCE. Confidence makes you funny, makes you intelligent, makes you intresting, it makes you ATTRACTIVE.

So if you feel like your life is pathetic, that you are unattractive and have no chance of dealing with women, how the fuck will you project confidence? Some men develop confidence with women naturally through their life, some men don´t. So what are you going to do about it? Will you be a victim or will you do something about it?

There is no other advice I can give you than FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT.

Hope it helps.

 

I assume you live alone, well:

- You have your bed sheets all for yourself in the winter.
- Your rent / ap is probably cheaper then theirs in water & light consumption.
- You have a bathroom with a higher hygiene, no need to share it with others.
- You can walk naked in your house and watch action movies on netflix against shitty romantic comedies.

You can also report their moans as public disturbance and maintain your identity safe. Their actions can be seem as exhibitionist.

 

Just LMAO

 

Life's not about sex.

 

I hate my neighbours from upstairs who are always getting it on at weird times, e.g close to midnight on Sunday night. Do they not have to go to work the next day?! I'm trying to sleep!

 

Then warn them to be more careful. You can also call the cops and get them in trouble if they don't stop. But it's up to you to stand up for your right.

 

You're not obligated to take their shit.

 

I am slightly irritated at first when I hear them dragging furniture at night, then I become very amused when I imagine how they are positioning themselves on it hahahahaha..

Ah yes, the joys and sorrows of living in high rise public housing.

 

How long since you last visited an escort? 'Cause I can tell you that that is quite obviously a barrier to your hopes of living the good life with a woman who will actually treat you like more than just a "sugar daddy." And/or a jizzing idiot.

I have this motto, friends, for my NoFap program. Or perhaps it is better to call it a method. It goes: ABSTAIN - RECOVER - ACHIEVE.

1. ABSTAIN from masturbation, porn, and all forms of semen loss.
2. RECOVER the lost energy and recover from the damage you've done to your body and mind.
3. ACHIEVE whatever you want in life. Write a list of goals and stick them out until they either lose relevance or are complete!

I hope you continue to post here and wish you well in overcoming your promiscuous past!

 

How do you know its actually sex? They can be roleplaying BDSM activities with no actual sex involved.

 

Like IHelpYou said, life is not all about sex.

As the saying goes, there are plenty of fish in the sea. I like to think that there is an excellent match for every person on the earth. Be optimistic (one technique I like to do is to write down three things I am grateful for everyday - makes me realise how fortunate I am), go out to social events here and there and do not allow negative emotions to dominate you.

I am SURE there is someone out there for you.

 

Jealous, eh? Vent away, it doesn't bother me... in fact, I often feel like that too, but less so when I contemplate how fleeting the pleasures of even a healthy relationship are, and how badly a relationship turned sour can damage us if we're not careful.

If I were you, I'd consider myself lucky that I haven't invested so much emotional energy in a relationship thus far and had my cover blown like the literally hundreds if not thousands of married or partnered guys on NoFap who write about the heartbreaking trauma porn addiction has caused their relationships. You're different in that there was little, if any, emotional contact between you and the escorts you saw. Well, as least as far as I presume.

You're learning to feel again. That, my good fellow, is at once a wonderful, mysterious and perhaps slightly frightening thing. Pay attention to those emotions of yours; don't identify with them too much, just be conscious of them. There will come a time when you will be surprised to find that you are at a level at which the little things don't bother you. As has famously been said, "Don't sweat the small stuff--and, it's all small stuff!"

 

True that! But they are still dragging the furniture and disrupting my sleep. Grrr