Help..Just a look or a voice is enough now to arouse me.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Talalelsayed, Feb 25, 2019.

  1. Talalelsayed

    Talalelsayed Fapstronaut

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    Hey my friends,

    I have just figured a new problem. When i was PMOing, i was an expert fantasizer, that evoked my oogling abilities. When i see a lady i begin to scan her all body, i may sometimes make a story of her past life to make a struggle during fantasizing i was with her, once i adore some lady i go to the nearest bathroom and began M, usually i fantasize that she came around and opened the door to begin to tell me her story -that i previously imagiened- and then we begin the whole process.

    My new problem is that i don't need to scan a body or imagine a story to get aroused, once i see something hot from a lady i feel my thing is blowing my pants, i stoped that bad oogling habit and this is usually an unintentional look -like when you are in a gym or sometimes at work when a college touches my shoulder as to whisper something-

    Does anyone has such experience? Triggers are everywhere and i am afraid to become weak one day and break my streak.
     
  2. fire.bird

    fire.bird Fapstronaut

    Not the exact same experience you are sharing, but i definitely get more easily aroused by the slightest thing while on nofap. I can get a raging boner justtalking with a woman in public. And i find that i get aroused by a wider spectrum of women than before - skinny, fat, young, old.
     
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  3. crazycats

    crazycats Fapstronaut

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    Dude, first... I am sorry to say... REALLY REALLY SORRY...











    but you are creepy. I am not scared of you, but what will happen if people outside this forum found out about this? Don't worry, I ain't snitch lol.

    Now, let's talk about the real deal. People fantasize because they have great minds. When you fantasize about sexual activities/woman in general, it means you are already deep in "porn addiction" hell or you simply have a huge sexual drive and your mind managed to create those scenarios in your head.

    In case of porn addiction, you should realize that it is the consequence of NoFap itself that in certain weeks, you will have tremendous sexual drive. It is your fight, that only you can win it. I do relapse recently, but it does not mean I am going to stop NoFap. I will continue this fight, until I reach the golden 90 days victory! Try to ask others who managed to reach 90 or surpass it.

    But if you do have huge sexual drive... If you do have GF/couple, you can focus on stopping the PM stuff since you can release it on your partner. But if you are single like me, I think it's better to focus your energy on something more important. Exercise for example. If you have this condition, it is highly likely that you have a lot of stamina. If you work daily and/or doing regular exercise, once you became tired due to the workload, usually you will no longer fantasize about sex stuffs and go straight to bed.

    While working, you may find attractive or sexy girls around. Instead of thinking and stay silent about it (which results in you fantasize about that girl), you have to fight this urge by shouting (in your heart) or talking to yourself saying "STOP THIS". If it's not comfortable, make it as a joke 'Hahaha that boobs will never be mine' or 'Oh that ass reminds me of...' . Of course, these jokes alone can be considered sexist, so it's best to keep it to yourself and closed friends. Lots of my friends joke around sexual stuffs, the interesting part is they can keep themselves in control while in the proximity of those girls, compared to people that keep things within their head. You might think again about them when you are at home, but if you do work productively, you might as well get some cold shower and go to sleep ASAP.

    I am sorry to say that what you did, although it is not uncommon, indeed it is scary things, especially for girls. I want you to know it. Yes, accept it that it is your current condition, but you should know that in the long run, it is not okay. I need to tell you this before someone that you respect/love say it directly to you that you are creepy. I was in your position (minus the heavy fantasies), and the girl that I love turned me down not only because there is no chemistry between us, she did say that I, for some reason, have a creepy aura around.

    Find other tips around internet, it should help you more than this post of mine.
     
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  4. Talalelsayed

    Talalelsayed Fapstronaut

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    I was fantasizing every single girl, now i am honest, only the beautiful ones arouses me and only if they are dressed or react in a sexy way.
    That is also not good but this is a strugle.
     
  5. Talalelsayed

    Talalelsayed Fapstronaut

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    I believe in what you said, my only objection to that is you went critizing in a very strict manner, i know i was very bad "creepy as you mentioned" but i am willing to improve my self. Quitting addiction is not an easy process especially if you were a heavy addict for long time and since you were young -as i am-

    My situation here is i was searching advice to be better, you judjed me for something i am trying to stop. sometimes critisizing works but man has to choose the right hammer to hit the nail.
     
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  6. crazycats

    crazycats Fapstronaut

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    Sorry. I am really sorry. This is the first time I post after a long months of screwing myself. Today is the day I finally have the will to stop, and damn I feel that I become a saint by telling good stuffs to other people which is wrong (while just yesterday I act like an idiot and creepy myself). I believe that my future posts will be less judging and more understanding. I am truly sorry for it. I hope you will find a solution for your problem.

    If you like, I can edit/delete that post, but I prefer if people can still see my stupidity and me being an asshole.
     
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  7. Talalelsayed

    Talalelsayed Fapstronaut

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    I am really grateful to you, spending time to read my problem and reply to it is really appreciatable to me, showing more interest with replying again means you are really good.

    You don't need to edit or delete your comment for sure, we are in this struggle together and i hope we can overcome, PMO is very dangerous on health, social and economical level.

    You have right, it makes a man do some creepy behaviour :);)

    Stay strong bro, we will do it.
     
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