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Hooked on edging and fantasies. Feel like I'm about to pop!

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by +TenPercent, Dec 9, 2020.

  1. Dec 9, 2020 #1
    +TenPercent

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    I've been in recovery for years, but have been slipping a lot lately. Mostly I'm looking at non-nude porn (sexy women with suggestive captions) and getting super aroused by that, often without touching at all. Though, over that last few months I've started stroking more and more. I do this over and over again, sometimes getting lost in it for an hour or more, but I don't let myself have an orgasm. Sometimes I'll even try to give myself blue balls.

    It seems I get high by edging like this, but I also am addicted to the frustrating urges, feeling horny all the time because I keep edging, without release. Sometimes I do the same thing with fantasies.

    Anyone else struggle with this? Any suggestions or encouragement? This always snowballs and I'm super horny right now. I'm frequently tempted to masturbate and "reset" but I'm hoping I can ride this out and get back on track without a relapse.
     
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  2. Dec 9, 2020 #2
    Le 18

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    Never edged like that but if you want to stop then ask yourself why. I can give you some good reasons like, waste of time, damaging dopamine receptors and all that but you will have to create your own reason.

    That behavior is not good and you know it. Any addiction is bad and will fuck your life up. Stop watching non nude porn or having fantasies and use all that hornines into something else like working out and so on.

    Something I tell myself when I have fantasies is"If you keep on fantasising, what you are fantasising about will stay being a fantasy". So if I fantasy of a girl I know and think is hot I will tell myself this because your create false expectations in your head.

    Goof luck
     
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  3. Dec 9, 2020 #3
    CrimsnBlade

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    Mentally begin to consider a edging a relapse. For me, as I've made it farther in my recovery, I make my "relapse" criteria more strict, not more relaxed. Masturbation was a relapse before. Now edging is a relapse. Porn was a relapse before. Now any search for any erotic material is a relapse.

    Clearly defining these has really helped me out a lot.
     
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  4. Dec 9, 2020 #4
    Address007

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    This is just impeding your progress. Want to reach your ultimate goal? Then stop doing this.
     
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  5. Dec 9, 2020 #5
    eagle rising

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    Edging is like taking sips of alcohol, like dabbing cocaine powder on your nostrils, like licking your favorite sugary snack, like only injecting a little bit of heroine. What would you think about the respective addict if they did such things? The practice of edging is an absolute detriment to the addict in recovery. There is no pathway to recovery that includes it.
     
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