How can i not give in to urges easily

first focus on surviving the first two weeks. My first streak was 127? days or something like that. It became easier and easier. When you relapse it becomes hell again. Time will do its work. Focus on shorter goals first.

 

same here bro i cant handle my self in controlling masturbation urge like i have now the great habit of this

 

Hello brother! Sorry to hear you're having a difficult time.

First and foremost, I'd suggest that you be gentle with yourself. Beating ourselves up is one of the worst habits that we have as porn addicts, and it really doesn't help us. So as unnatural as it is, we need to learn to be kind toward ourselves and accept our fuck ups. Please don't think that you're weak. Setting the goal and undertaking the journey of nofap requires immense courage and discipline, so please give yourself some credit! This journey is a deep spiritual battle, that requires nothing short of a warrior to get it right. I've been on this journey for 8 years and failure is a crucial part of this process. We will "fail" and fall down countless times before we gain enough awareness, wisdom, strength, and discipline to get this right. It can be done, but it can't be done overnight! So keep going brother. Keep striving, and frustration and pain can be replaced with courage and hope. One of the greatest shifts that I've experienced in my nofap journey was to stop trying to fight against masturbation and porn, and to stop arriving at the fight with this adversary having my full consciousness focused on it. I've stopped trying to not do something, because what you resist persists. The more you try and push something away, it only presents itself with a greater presence in your life. So the key here is to shift your focus. Shift your focus onto other aspects of positive change in your life that will ultimately allow porn and masturbation to fall away, and cease to be problems. So ideally you need to work toward a greater vision of yourself, and you need to start implementing positive habits and behaviours that will give you an effective mental defense against porn and masturbation. Here is what I would suggest, try them, but ultimately you need to find things that you enjoy and what works for you:

- Meditation is crucial. Even if it's a walk, or you focus on your breathing, even if it's only 5 minutes a day. It's crucial to just calm down and connect to the present moment. With more meditation, you will find increased awareness.
- Cold showers are incredible. They have remarkable positive effects on our physiology and mood. They will also allow you to grow in discipline and courage. Everyday twice a day for at least 2 minutes.
- Increase your exercise! Play more sport, get in the gym. Get active, get the blood pumping.
- Journal every night and document how you are growing and changing
- Work on improving your relationships. This is crucial. Spend more time connecting with others. We are social beings, and porn isolates us from the world. Call your parents, make plans with friends. I cannot stress enough how valuable relationships are.
- Start living by principles. Decide on the kind of man that you want to be. Create a list of values and start living in alignment with them. This will increase your self worth, by knowing that you are doing what you know is right for you. For example, keeping your word, facing fears, being disciplined, etc.
- Also check out a Youtube channel called Goldjacket Luke. A fapstronaut who made it to over 830 days. Hugely inspirational and he has a lot of knowledge that can help.

Good luck my brothers! Keep striving, you can do this!

 

what an amazing reply, Spiritual Redemption. Me too was needing this message. Thank you.

 

@Spiritual Redemption Awesome advice, thank you Relationships are indeed important!

 

Sure thing gents! Glad I could help. Have a cracker of a day, and best of luck!

 

Welcome! I'm familiar with how you're feeling, and it's a rough spot to be in. We're not going to judge whether or not you're trying hard enough, because we were all there at one point.