How do I tell my girlfriend I have a porn addiction

Can I just say coming from a girlfriends perspective that the fact you are trying to be honest is commending and the fact that you see it to be a problem or potential problem should be reassuring to her. By showing her the Ted talks video, she will begin to see what an epidemic it is for mostly men and I think she will respect you more and make her feel that you trust her, and her trust for you should increase, unless she is at all highly insecure or jealous, then preface it with that you want to have an open and honest relationship an reassure her that having been doing it does not mean she is inadequate.
I only wished my bf would come to me telling me he wants to stop, but instead it makes me feel totally cheated out and upon and it hurts me deeply. Hiding or having secrets in a relationships in any way is boarding on been fradulent. Sad. If he was a secret heroin addict ( very hypothetical) I would feel betrayed, but it's more threatening knowing he needs more than me,I guess. She may need a minute to process it. Give her time and lots of reassurance being super careful not to get mad if she initially reacts in a way you weren't expecting. Hope that helps!!

 

Well done Chris. I personally kept my PMO habit to myself, and even though I did it a lot less when I was dating someone, I still didn't have the guts to admit it to them. Only one time when a girlfriend asked me directly if I looked at porn did I admit it.

I admire your courage and willingness to be honest. It will help with the healing.

 

Good job, it could have been much worse. I had to start explaining in generalities, referencing The Great Porn Experiment, etc., then slowly bring it to my more personal struggles. It can be hurtful to women, but slowly everyone is seeing the way out and to a more fulfilling life of real love.

Be the best man for her that you can, every minute, every day.

 

This video of Mark Queppet's Sacred Sexuality Project will help: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uDGwFlYFPqw