How do you do this? How you keep good strikes? I can't last 3 days without relapse and it make me sad, like really I wanna cry. I have no idea what to do. I thought it will come in time but it doesn't seem so. I keep failing and failing and I had enough. But how to do it? How to last? How you do it?
Becuase i told myself enough is enough. Im fucking tired of watching porn, tired of being a virgin, tired of a being a girlfriendless loser while everyone else gets to have sex and relationships and everything ive ever wanted. Porn or MO is NOT AN OPTION ANYMORE. I got one life to live and i spent a good half of it with my hand on my dick and my mind in porn as opposed to talking to females. Thats done with. This is up to you. Theres always a choice. I made mine
If you don't want and desire this enough, nothing will ever change. That's just how this stuff goes. I could sit here and write a whole essay, but this is the short version. Also, the fact that it's a new year helped me to make new goals and strategies. I had already decided since late last year that 2016 is going to be a year of no more fucking around.
Agreed the new year was my kick in the ass to stop talkin about and reading about nofap and just do it
One day at a time, brother, by the grace of God keep it in your pants! Make good life choices. When you have the urge to PMO go do something else. For instance, instead of looking at porn, sign on to Nofap, read some success stories, or write a journal entry talking about how you feel. Better yet, if you've got three days, find someone who has less time then that and try to help them get one or two days. We need each other in this struggle. But when it comes down to the wire just take it one day at a time, or if need be one hour at a time or even one minute at a time. Don't give up! Learn from your mistakes and keep growing from your experiences. You will get there. Just make it through this day and let go of tomorrow and yesterday, all we have is today.
Bearbones - Honestly, it's not that easy. Check out yourbrainonporn.com for helpful info (especially the videos). I would highly recommend checking out SA (sexaholics anonymous) and see if they have meetings in your town/city. My first days I had to go a minute then a day at a time. there were days when I didn't turn my computer on because I was so tempted. As I made progress I found that I had gone a week without PMO. That felt great and I was able to stretch it to two and now I am at 93 days. I have a sponsor through SA and I go to meetings once a week and meet face to face with other addicts. You might want to check out the book A Hunger for Healing by Keith Miller. It's a great book and will walk you through the 12 steps (but I still recommend SA meetings). If you city doen't have SA they may have SAA. I don't spiritualize or trivilize things either. Scripture is helpful but (I believe) that God wants us to do this in community.
