This post is born out of some talks with my friends and other men here on NoFap... The more I speak with men who have casual sex, the more I am feeling that there is something wrong with that. I can't speak of my own experience as I am still a virgin. But this is what I have noticed: - Guys who have lots of girls try to avoid any romantic engagement or emotional intimacy with women; - They break up with their gf's at the first sign of conflict, friction or disagreement - They sometimes have more than one woman and lie to all their gf's, telling them each one is the only one - The guys step over some boundaries and go into having casual sexual relations with married women and with mothers of young kids. Often such women would come to them themselves because they are looking for a way to escape the emotional stress at home. Well, the men are not shy to use that to their advantage. - When I would ask them some questions about settling down, about being more responsible, about being more emotionally involved and even more monogamous, I would either hear: --- that its OK the way it is now and that I am being too serious or too religious, coz a young man must enjoy life and basically sleep around as much as he can, OR --- that they are so caught up in this mess of emotionless sex and casual lifestyle, but that they cant give up on it coz it would hurt too much/ too difficult/ no point in giving up... Some are even admitting that they realize they are emotionally needy after a woman and yet they choose to avoid doing something after acknowledging the problem. -------------- My first thoughts is comparing the above observations with a plain PMO addiction. What I hear between the lines is a denial of a helpless position and lack of self-control. If a guy watches too much porn, he loses regard for the humanity of the porn models and begins to objectify women. I believe the same happens when there is abundant casual sex as I described above. I don't think our brain can handle such intense sexual stimulation without going through some heavy long-term effects and changes - away from sensitivity. Emotional memory is very strongly stimulated during orgasm - so if one does not preserve it, then it is simply filled up and worn out and there is nothing left to give, but only to take. So basically I am in a need of a little brainstorming here.... help me out anyone? I am open to hear what you all have to say. Below are some of the points you might consider while answering or sharing. o Which of you support casual sex and why? o To what extend would you say sex is OK with multiple partners? o What would you allow yourself now in casual sexual relationships that you would not allow yourself a couple of years ago and why did that change? o If you are or were caught up in such vicious casual sex cycle, do you consider it an addiction or just something normal? o If you were in an unwanted casual sex cycle, what are some ways someone could be of support and help to you, that you would suggest and appreciate? Thank you and stay strong everyone!