Hi, I'm curious about it. Did you notice your relationship was affected before you started rebooting? What effects have you discovered during the reboot? How did your relationship change? Or maybe you didn't see any impact until after breakup? To me I think it was one of the biggest contributors to me being constantly bored and tired. I wouldn't take my ex on dates and didn't find most of the things we did (trips, vacation, weekends) interesting. I actually criticized most of her ideas of spending time as they seemed boring. I should mention she wanted to go places a lot. I just needed sex, I could go to sauna or jacuzzi afterwards, maybe to the movie theater but anything else seemed like an effort most of the time. Not sure if PMO was the root cause of that, since there was one huge difference between us - our beliefs (religion vs. no-religion) - that made it impossible for me to see us together for the rest of our lives. But I think it could have a significant impact. I'm wondering what's your story. Thanks.
I have just started my reboot so I can only comment on how PMO effected my relationship with my wife. As expected not in a good way. Some ways that I mentioned in my introduction were not being able to O with my wife because of an earlier PMO session (this only happened once I believe) and also avoiding sex because I knew I would be alone the next day and wanted my PMO session to be "better". Since being married, I have also fantasied about being cuckolded and my wife becoming a "hot wife". I did not really pursue either of these fantasies. I know they would devastate me if they actually occurred. My situation is also a little different because I have watched P with my wife (this was not as great as I thought it would be btw). She has not asked me to give up PM, this is something I am doing for myself. Although I believe quitting PMO can only help our relationship.
