How to deal with boners

[takethecharge]

I'm new to the community, but I did go on few 4-6 day periods free of PM some time ago.

But I quite often make it only to day 1, 2 or 3 to find out how easily I get a boner.
I don't know if it's just my and my high libido and being a pervert, but it often only takes a presence of a nice girl right next to me, her smell or unintended touch to start a slow and steady bloodstream right to the spot. So I don't literally get a boner, but a semi-boner and it's enough to make me feel uncomfortable - what if it gets harder? What if I have to stand up and people will clearly notice?

Sometimes when my sexual drive is up high, a piece of cleavage can become a pretty mind blowing spot to look at. This is also the hard part, I have to fight with myself to resist showing any signs of that peaking sexual drive (talking about University classes) and with the urge to consciously get even harder as it's a natural thing to do and actually creates a lot of pleasure.

How do you deal with it? I reckon it's a matter of self-mastery and creating a new habit of not falling into that state in which I can hardly focus during a class because of my sexual drive?

Any tricks? It bothers me because I'm doing my first 30 Day no PM. I think I'm going to wear tighter underwear or pull it higher and dress up with pants tighter around crotch area, I've found that it helps. Not trying to overdo it though, cause it could definitely cause some long term problems or maybe even shrinkage.

 

[BullseyeChris]

First of all, know that you are normal! Having semis and even full out boners when you see someone you are attracted to, is a normal, healthy response. That does not make you a pervert. It just means that everything is working like it's supposed to! Other guys deal with the same thing, too, they are probably just too embarrassed to talk about it! Especially younger guys like yourself. So give yourself some grace and realize that most people aren't staring at your crotch, ha.

I think you've come up with the best solutions to the issue. Tighter underwear will keep it closer to your body, though it may be a bit uncomfortable at times. It won't, however, cause your penis' size to shrink. Where did you ever hear that one? ha If it's too tight, it may keep things too hot, which can make things itchy after a while, or, temporarily cause your sperm count to go down some. But regular fitting underwear won't do that for most guys. Tighter pants (though not too tight) can also help keep it in place. Really tight ones, though, will leave nothing to the imagination, and really baggy ones are too loose to hold it in place if you become erect. You would just pitch an obvious tent, ha. Not what you want. (Unless you have more form fitting underwear on)

If your hands are free, you can always put your hand in your pocket closest to your penis and can even hold it through your pocket if it gets really bad. And no one will be any the wiser. If you carry some stuff in your front pockets, like keys, cell phone, or a thin wallet, that will also create "natural bulges" down there, so ppl won't suspect that the reason there is a bigger than avg sized bulge there is bec Mr. Happy is getting excited, ha. But if you do start to get one, again, most ppl won't even notice, and if they do, well, if it's a guy, he can't throw any stones bec he gets them too sometimes, and if its a girl, well, she may be impressed and ask for your number, ha. So, don't sweat it too much; it's just part of being a guy.

 

[SP Wild]

If a girl gives you a semi, that is excellent. Use it to your advantage.

I find girls have always been fascinated with erections. Let it be known to her that you are ashamed of your semi. Put your hands to cover your crotch and blush as you talk to her, act shy, cute and innocent.

Oh she'll notice alright! This is the goal.

Step one accomplished. She noticed you and she is now curious. Is she that that attractive? She is not sure. What is it that makes you want her? She wanders.

Stay strong, your imagination will rescue you. Remember, don't be a sleaze.