I am a Guilty Husband

Its hard to tell the reasons why we do these things regardless of the different things we need to be contented. I suggest reading the scientific reasons hightly by NoFap. The chemicals that triggers when we watch porn and how it can rewire our brains. You can start by trying to do a reboot. Reboot is no PMO for 90 days. There are two types of reboot I believe the hard one, which is no PMO, M or O. This means having sec with your wife is also not allowed. Soft type I believe is no PMO in that order and you can have sex with your wife, just no porn. My goal is no PMO and personally I hope my brain will reboot so I can enjoy throughly my family without thinking anout my hidden secret. I hope you find your answers in this forum.

 

Im a christian and going through the same thing. Dont have much advice to give you (only a couple of weeks in my self) but you have my support and I wish you all the best on the nofap journey!

 

Hi,

I am a married male, 36 years, with 2 year old kid. 20+ years of porn addiction. Though some other facts are different, but I can correlate to your guilt.

Small note on my personal situation: I have had many instances when I would break my resolve to not watch porn, sometimes on special occasions like a religious festival or when I was on a religious fast or an important personal occasion. Each time, I would feel terrible - like a criminal who could not remain pure even on the most pious occasions. Then, I had to accept reality. As much as I love my loved ones, value emotions over lust, and want to be pure - the force of lust is very strong. Then I acknowledged - (with the help of religious scriptures), that the power of my soul, and conscience - is stronger than lust. So now, its a head on battle between the strongest force in the universe (our souls) and the one of the second-strongest forces in the universe (lust). And I believe that once my soul defeats lust, I will be able to enjoy love, emotions and all bliss of the soul itself, much more than what I do now.

Some thoughts for you:

1. It is what it is. Be aware of the situation. One of the important points is - to be aware that porn is bad. Being aware that porn is bad and fighting it (though losing on some days), is very much more advanced stage, than not even being aware that porn is bad. Just imagine - so many of our brothers and sisters in the world are not even aware that porn is bad! So now you have one more reason to thank God! For putting you on the right path. Falling down sometimes is not as bad as being on the wrong path itself.

2. If possible, confess to your wife. However, do this only if you think she will be able to handle it and still support you. Also - be very careful - not to spoil her innocence & purity (assuming she is more pure than you as far as not watching porn is concerned, its important that she helps you come out of the hole and you do not accidentally make her fall down).

3. Do it for yourself! Do it for your kid! Do it for the world! You can do it! Come out of P, PM, PMO!

 

Hello.
It seems as a difficult situation. I can understand it - I guess that everyone here have similar experience. I don't know if I can give you some help.. there is one thing which I can see from your posts. It is your inner condition. If I should give you some advice - you should start there. It is a bad habit, all of us would agree. But don't be so sad, depressive and guilty feeling. It is good, that you take this seriously. But you have to be careful about your emotions, because if you will fall into depresion and lethargy, it is spiral downwards. So if I can give you some advice - try to cheer yourself up. Enjoy the time with your family, enjoy nice small moments, etc.. it won't help you from this habit, but it will improve your inner conditions and therefore your chances to win. Even from the religious perspective don't be afraid. You're a religious man - believe me, if you believe in God, he wants you to win this struggle and he also knows, how difficult it is for you. So raise your head and be positive. It will be easier, you'll see.
And also, try to have some contact with people which you believe and with which you can speak about it. It may be us, or it might be some of trustworthy people you know. Also try to check my first article here at forum, it might be functional for you as a religious person.
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/lets-make-it-worth-this-time.193151/

Be brave, my friend. You will succeed.