I don't want to have sex with her because she is a virgin

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Washwaverr, Jul 1, 2020.

  1. Washwaverr

    Washwaverr Fapstronaut

    Hello fapstrounauts,

    There's this girl that I even needed to block her on social media just to not get triggered by her. There's the same girl that I occasionally dream of having sex with. And there she is again all ready and waiting for non other than me to be the first one. Even tho I played with her, constant blocking unblocking dates that don't happen chats and stuff. Still there. But why do I dream of her, think about her, get triggered of her and still don't want to do it just because she is a virgin is that normal ?????



    Also she is the only girl that I have fantasies with. I know that if I just do it it will make my life and NoFap easier but I just seem to not have enough balls. What is wrong with me? Why?
     
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  2. p1n1983

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    So you are basically scared to death that if you have sex with her and you dessapoint her, her virginity is something that you can't give her back and you are going to feel really gulty about it?

    She want's to give you a hugh gift, she want's you to be her first man. If you want to do it, then do it. If you are afraid to do it, grow a set of balls and do it. If you just don't want to do it because you just don't like her then is ok to stay away from her, but stop giving her hope.
     
  3. "She wants to give you a gift" @p1n1983 man are you really 37 years old or is the name random? Because this is a pile of nonsense what you are saying.
    OP you sound like a teenager to me tbh. Anyway, do whatever you want, it is your life and your decision. But whatever you do it is going to be on you, not on me or anybody else.
    And if sex is bad at first attempt then there is always the possibility of trying again, isn't it? So just chill and if you want to go ahead then go, if not, don't. Plain and simple.
     
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  4. Washwaverr

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    well, I was all day thinking about her again and edging. So your reply is probably the best. Just opened the forum after a session of edges and seeing this makes me hopeful.
     
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  5. So what do you want? In the ideal world where you are the king of the world and can do whatever the hell you want, are you going to sleep with her or not?
    If yes, then I'd say go for it. If not, don't.
     
  6. Washwaverr

    Washwaverr Fapstronaut

    In the ideal world i would like to sleep with her and nobody catching feelings would be perfect. But the chance is that she will.
     
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  7. Washwaverr

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    Which makes me an asshole
     
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  8. No. That makes her naive and young.
    If you tell her beforehand that you want to have sex but don't like her as a person and that you probably won't want it to evolve into anything bigger, then you won't be an asshole.
    If she still decides that she still wants it and then falls for you and you don't fall for her then it's is going to be her fault.
    And a life lesson for her ;)

    Btw, have you even spoken to her about it or are you two playing some silly games? Because you are so sure she will start to have feelings?
     
  9. Washwaverr

    Washwaverr Fapstronaut

    She knows everything. But she plays it "cool". She's just for the sex but I doubt it.
     
  10. Washwaverr

    Washwaverr Fapstronaut

    I mean i told her that the only thing I want is her body and she said that she knows and that makes it perfect cuz she doesn't want anything else either
     
  11. Then from what you know she is only into sex.
    Whether she falls for you or not is not for you to worry about.
    If she does then that is really not for you to worry about. It's not like you would owe her anything just because you both slept together. Lol.

    The way I would act: I would go ahead and have sex with her.

    The way you are going to act is your decision though.
     
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  12. Washwaverr

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    But now that I think about it you are right. Thank you. Whatever happens- happens
     
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  13. p1n1983

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    First support your opinion, then we can talk.
     
  14. Washwaverr

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    I believe that he is saying that first time is over exaggerated. And I kinda agree
     
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  15. The idea as if a woman wanting to have sex with a man was giving him a big favour, bestowing a gift upon him etc. God damnit don't even get me started on how dumb this idea is.
    No, it is not a "gift". A rose or a birthday card is a gift. Sex isn't.

    Well, it shouldn't...

    @UP that one too.
     
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  16. Envoy-ofthe-End

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    Porn is making you weak and second think everything. Trust me I know, I´ve had model like girls serve themselves on a silver platter and chickened out thanks to PMO. Porn makes you into a weak little boy...
     
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  17. 978twentytwo

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    As a girl... don’t have sex with her. I was in same situation, a virgin and had a guy who wanted my body only. Thought I might as well just go for it to get rid of virgin label. But he was tentative like you about me catching feelings. Who knows maybe it would be you who would catch feelings... you never know. But anyway, as much as I agree that virginity is not a gift you give to someone as a girl, the level of opening up and closeness it takes and the fact it is not a feeling you have ever experienced before, means I would let her wait for a man who cares about her fully do it. You’ll find the right girl for you too.

    In my situation I was so glad I didn’t give in because a year later I lost it to a man who loves me.
     
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  18. Washwaverr

    Washwaverr Fapstronaut

    But she has the only body I want. It's egotistic, I know. But I can't help it anymore. It is overwhelming.
     
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  19. 978twentytwo

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    Someone else will have the same body type the same attractiveness/ look. There are billions of girls.
     
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