I leave nofap and the past behind me

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Deleted Account, Jun 25, 2020.

  1. I am free of the addiction for 3,5 years now. I don’t want to talk about it anymore with people. There is no need in that. I don’t have to convice others the effects of porn on the brain.

    Like a lot of things that I dealt with in life: overweight, drug addiction (weed), insecurity, social anxiety, depression, people pleasing, I overcame it and left it all behind. I am really in shape, have abs etc. now. I don’t talk about the whole time how I was overweight, had problems with fast food. I don’t talk about the drug addiction anymore, because I am free of it. So, the same rule is that I don't have to talk nofap, no porn etc. the whole time. So, I just leave Nofap and the past behind me. There is no need to talk about the past always.

    I have helped many people with the addiction. I listened to their stories. Made a lot of time free etc. But now I had a good insight; Why should I help those people with their addiction? I have read so many books about it and have been to so many therapies to overcome my addiction. I paid a lot for those knowledge. Why should I give my knowledge and secrets away? I only lose A LOT of time. I am not going to please people anymore. I will just focus on my own life now. Everybody is just on their own, so am I now.

    I don’t fight against porn anymore. My brain is fully rewired. I just have to focus to take my life to a new next level. Focus on my own life.

    I don’t give my secrets away anymore. I will stop talking with people about porn addiction and let them do whatever they wan’t to do. Their relapse and struggle is their problem. I will just enjoy my free life.

    Good luck with your recovery.
     
  2. Liven

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    Good for you! I'd like to reach that state when i feel i can boost and help others. I think thats the next step when you overcome the addiction is to help others.
     
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  3. BearfootJack

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    Glad you're free of porn, man. But it sounds like you lack compassion for who you used to be, and the struggles you went through that many others are still going through, and don't relate to them anymore because of it. The vibe of your post is weird... you're like, posting in a success story forum about nofap, talking about how you don't want to talk about nofap and don't want to help people. Sounds like you're on the tail end of a negative experience with trying to help someone, maybe?

    So... Have a nice life, then? If you don't want to talk about it or help people why did you come here? A pat on the back from the people you don't want to help, or what? Strange, man.
     
  4. sonic123rainbow

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    Define helping? Sometimes what's best in life is to not help. Some people just don't want to change themself(most are this type of people), so I wouldn't try to help any people who wouldn't want to change, since that's needed I cannot force others to take my advice.
     
  5. Igoumah

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    Being free of the addiction for 3,5 years is a big success bro, so congrats..
    You don't have to force people to change but you should help them if they need you..
    You know why ?? Because we are all humain being, if everyone stops helping others or giving them his knowledge there will not be any progress in life..
    Proud of your success again and have a good day.
     
  6. Metis07

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    Helping others in order to please them/be praised/show off is one thing.
    Helping others in order to really help them because of your compassion/to do smth good in your life/to feel good is another.
     
  7. Envoy-ofthe-End

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    This post isn´t really congruent with what NOFAP is... I came here because I needed help and so did you, and you received it. Now, you´re saying you do not want to help others? If no one had helped you then you´d still be a loser. It´s okay if you don´t want to talk about it anymore and leave, but if someone with an issue asks for help the best thing to do would be to share your experience so that they know they should quit. Not one of us can change if not from other people´s help and feedback.
     
  8. Sosuke Aizen

    Sosuke Aizen Fapstronaut

    Interesting that this is the kind of attitude you have developed about a FORUM on addiction recovery, which exists for the sole purpose of assisting people through psychological reinforcement that "we're all in this together".

    3.5 years is a long time, but don't let it fool you. Better people with longer streaks than you have ended back up here. Pride cannot be used by just anyone.

    Be humble enough to respect your origins and those just starting the same journey you undertook. Those who underestimate the lessons of their past are bound repeat the same mistakes again.
     
  9. BearfootJack

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    Yeah, good distinction. I think with addiction and many other kinds of self-help, it only works if the person you're trying to help meets you half way and shows willingness and determination to get better.
     
  10. RQ7

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    Haughty post.
     
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  11. engelman

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    Something tells me we're not losing a great deal here ....
     
  12. greatchinaski

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    This guy is a troll. Only has 3 posts. If you really left nofap and the past behind you wouldn't be posting on this forum. You would just get on with your life. The truth is the best way to help your own recovery is by helping others.

    I don't care how long you've been clean. People have relapsed after decades of sobriety. As George Carlin said, "Just cause you got the monkey off your back doesn't mean the circus has left town."
     
  13. lardy_renewed

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    I think you've hit the nail on the head when you say there's a lack of compassion for who you used to be. And it's easy to hate one's past self. If you recover from anything and look back at it objectively without sugarcoating it then it will hurt. The money spent hurts, the time wasted hurts, the people betrayed, lost or otherwise hurts. So what next? Turn that emotion into a force for good like helping others and not toward victimhood, vengeance or anything else
     
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  14. Chefb87

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    I truly believe recovery will never be over. I believe that it's a lifetime of being vigilant and cautious of triggers. I also believe a huge part of staying sober is sticking around support groups to share the message to others struggling . To remind yourself where you come from, and where you once we're , and how much you've progressed, and how badly you don't want to be back at the beginning.
     
  15. engelman

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    You're right @Chefb87 . If I can help someone and make him not waste some precious time in his life ... that would be great!

    If only I had had that help decades ago ...
     
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  16. ha ha so true , I didnt know if the original poster was serious or making a joke but its one of the most odd posts i have seen in awhile lol
     
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  17. DyingStar

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    A lifetime of recovery? So do you think fetishes gained through porn addiction will never go away? I won't lie that's not too encouraging.
     
  18. engelman

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    Well, I don't about P-induced fetishes because my fetishes are with me since I can remember. They haven't gone completely away, but the urges now are a shadow of what used to be.
     
  19. fapequalsdeath

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    You can delete your account, mate. Off you go never mention it again.
     
  20. Chefb87

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    Sorry !
    What I meant was , at least for my recovery. I need to keep going to my SAA 12 step group, I'll need to always be cautious and watch out for triggers. I will need to be reminded that I am a sex and porn addict. Because I feel if I dont keep that at least a little bit in the forefront there chance of sliding back into dangerous old habits are greatly increased !
     

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