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I lost my ability to have an orgasm

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by CyberAdonis, Sep 6, 2020.

  1. CyberAdonis

    CyberAdonis New Fapstronaut

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    I come to tell my experience, and by the way know if the same thing happens to someone else, since there is very little information about this on the Internet. I am 23 years old, basically, I have been UNABLE TO HAVE AN ORGASM for 6 or 7 years, either from masturbation or from sex. My libido is perfect, my erections are powerful, I do not have premature ejaculation, my only problem is that, I cannot reach orgasm, I ejaculate normally, but said ejaculation is not accompanied by the final climax, this is quite frustrating because I know what is having an orgasm and not being able to experience it has me unhinged. I have been thinking for a long time that this may be due to excessive consumption of porn and excessive practice of masturbation since almost my pre-teens. I would masturbate to porn almost two or three times a day, until one day the intensity of the orgasms started to drop, I don't exactly remember the moment when I stopped having them at all, so I guess it was a gradual process. Instead I just feel a small sensation that would be something like the semen going to the tip of the glans to come out, but that's it.
    I thought that this was because I was older and masturbation no longer satisfied me, therefore I would have to start having sex with women (I was a virgin) and that way the orgasms would return. That's how I started the 90-day challenge, although I have to admit that it was a bit tricky, since it stimulated me visually with suggestive images and several times I found myself voting for pre-seminal liquid. About 70 days into the challenge I met a girl and lost my virginity at 20, and the disappointment was unbearable. I was able to have intercourse for a long time, but I just couldn't finish, therefore I "forced" the ejaculation and again, I didn't have an orgasm, just the same sensation when masturbating that I described above. Then I met another one, and the same thing, only with this one I ejaculated faster because we were doing it in an office and I was nervous about being discovered. Since then, for personal reasons, I cannot have sex regularly, since I live with my family in a somewhat small place and due to my financial situation I have not been able to go out with girls much. So, I resort to masturbation and porn to try to satisfy myself, but I never succeed, and you could say that I do it out of habit and to calm my sexual desires, since as I mentioned I CANNOT GET PLEASURE FROM IT. It is for this reason that I am going to try the challenge again and this time follow it strictly, and maybe stop masturbating and watching porn forever. I don't have high expectations, because maybe this requires professional help and honestly now I don't have the money to pay for even one consultation. But by trying this of the challenge I do not lose anything, I suppose that I will count my progress. On the other hand, I also think that perhaps it is something psychological, since in one of my last spells of almost a month, I had a dream in which I had sex and in the dream I managed to feel a kind of "reminiscence" of what my orgasms were , and then woke up just before ejaculating. This is the closest to an orgasm that I had in years, I will also try to improve my conditions and have sex on a regular basis, since that will allow me to experiment and get to know myself more in that aspect, it is one of the things I am working on . Thank you very much in advance and I await your responses.
     
  2. IGY

    IGY Fapstronaut
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    You have anorgasmia. This will resolve itself if you reboot fully from all sexual stimulation. But it will take many months i.e. more than just 90 days. The need to be strict is paramount. Getting your feeling of orgasm back should motivate you. :)
     
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  3. WhiteLion

    WhiteLion Fapstronaut

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    If you stick with full semen retention and pay attention to your body then you will be able to notice both phisical and psycology cues that you did not notice before. What other effects are you expiring? Keep notes. You will want to determine what else might be going on. Most likely, IGY is correct and it will come back. If it does not then you might want to look at possible underlining medical conditions. Full semen retention will help you figure that out.
     

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