Hello, I don't really know how to present myself so i'm going to get directly to the point. Yes,I am a porn addict, I started watching porn around I was like 14 years old and I am still struggling with this addiction. I wanted to talk more about my story but it seems more important to me to talk about my current situation. What I really want is to get rid of this addiction, in the past, I was able to go a month wihout returning to the abd habits but I have been unable to mantain the streak beyond that time using sheer willpower. I am aware of the problems that fapping has brought to my life, i fell more unfocus and uninsipired, it also hurts my confidence because I know that I see porn to compensate the things in life I currently don't have. So with that said, I would like if anyone around hera can offer to me some guidance to get rid of this addiction for real. I also have some things to mention before if you want to give me advice. -I'm from a third world country, there we do not have things like support groups or easy access to mental health support. -I dont want to talk to anyone close to me (friends or family) about this problem, the culture of this type of issue isn't take seriusly and is not seen as real problem, you know, the will say "sexual exploration" in case of young people or they will see you with condescendence, my family is really indiferent. - In line with the things I say prior, I want to keep it private. -I'm looking more for actions to control my impulse, In the past I worked or study and that distracted me from watching porn, but I realapse i a short period of time after i finish my duties. In advance I will bee thankful to any advice that you can do. I'm also sorry for any mistakes in my english, I understand the lenguage but I havent talk in it very much.
Hola y bienvenido! There is a lot of different approaches to facing porn addiction. When I started trying to recover I put a heavy emphasis on not watching p while maybe not working so much on my life macros, specially mindset. The jump sort of happened when I realized that to do substantial progress I had to change the things that lead me to porn In the first place. A decade of bad habits is not easy to change. Anyway, I shifted the main focus from not watching p to improving my life. No pmo still absolutely necessary but if a slip or relapse happened then I'll proceed to learn as much from it and not act like it's the end of the world because it isn't. Putting on perspective if I was watching every day before trying to recover and now I went three months without it and then relapsed, then that's still a whole lot better. Relapses will happen. So that there was huge, relapses happened, I learned from that. Things I'd ask myself: what lead me here, how could have I coped with the negative feelings that lead me there, did I lie, did I try to hide it. Have to change your environment, if you want to quit, get out of social media, get rid of any P you have in your phone or pc, get rid of any P accounts you have, install blockers I'd go as far to say cut down on procrastination time and get very active. If you have groups of friends that tend to send a lot p maybe measure that too. It's a drag but discipline is important to recover, it's ok if you are not super disciplined you can build that overtime. Being super honest is very important, and by being honest I mean cut the BS too and not make excuses to justify when something bad happens. Be honest to yourself when slip and unless it was an accident actually acknowledge you lost control. Anyway those are examples but you get the jist of it. When it comes to mindset this is still work in progress but negative thought patterns just took me into a negative place. Thoughts of anger like meh this job sucks, why will I even try to do this, it's pointless, thoughts where I'd disqualify people etc. Keeping a positive attitude and being grateful for the things you do have actually does make a change. Reading books on self improvement is a good thing to do aswell. If you want to learn more about porn, try your brain on porn, a classic around here. Also if you can't afford therapy or attending support groups I'd highly encourage you to find an Accountability partner that is very committed and maybe would compromise to help you with self control on your devices. Not having to worry so much about slipping in YouTube can help reduce stress a lot Thee main Pilars in my opinion: -accountability -honesty -commitment to change bad habits This are some of the things that I learned along the way and that helped me get better. I hope you can find some of it useful and implement it for your own recovery! Lastly, really convince yourself that you are not the P you watched, that P does not define you AND that you are I control of your life, not P.
