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I need help please. I will kill myself

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Clever Idiot, Jan 31, 2019.

  1. Clever Idiot

    Clever Idiot New Fapstronaut

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    Hey. Keeping Everything Short. I Want To Get This Out Of My Chest. I'm In An LDR With My Girlfriend. We're Together For A Year And A Half Now. Recently About 2-3 Weeks, I Spied On My Girlfriend's Accounts, And I Found Out That Every Night, She Fights With Me And After That Time, She Goes On YouTube And Watched Immense Sex Scenes And Stuff. I Feel Extremely Devastated By This. I Had Told Her Before, When We Started This Relationship That No Vulgar Things Should Be Seen In This Relationship. And She Swore On Me That She'll Never Do This. She Even Told Me That She Skipped The Sex Scenes Of Fifty Shades Of Grey And The Sequel Of That.
    We Have Phone Sex Occasionally, But Just And Hour Ago I Saw, She Fought With Me Over The Phone And Cut The Call. Then I Opened Her YouTube (That's My Only Source Of Spying Right Now) And She Is Watching These Dirty Sex Scenes From Movies.
    Me Knowing This, I Messaged Her And Asked Her If She Wanted To Sleep Over The Phone Tonight. (We Sleep Together Everyday) She Calls Me And Starts Getting Kinky. Wtf Am I Supposed To Do. I Don't Want This Kind Of Shit. Getting Turned On By Sexy Videos And Then Getting Off On Me. I Feel Like She's Just Using Me For That. That's Why I Stopped Her And Made An Excuse That I'm Very Sick. What The Fuck Am I Supposed To Do? I Can't Sleep. I Cut The Call While She Was In Her Sleep. I Fuckin Hate Her. I Feel Completely Betrayed. My Trust Feels Broken. I Feel Broken. I Want To KMS.
     
  2. Retentionman

    Retentionman Fapstronaut

    Wtf
     
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  3. Clever Idiot

    Clever Idiot New Fapstronaut

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    What?
     
  4. Beamer

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    Hello,

    I’m sorry to hear that you are struggling. Rebooting has its ups and downs, just like life. We see many people experiencing both the ups and downs during the reboot, and though it may be hard to see now, these feelings you are having won’t last forever. It will get better with time, if you are patient and wait.

    In the meantime, please seek professional help. I know the idea of calling a helpline might terrify you, but in times of crisis, we often need someone their to put our lives in perspective. So please contact someone who can help and don’t hang up on them. The International Association for Suicide Prevention maintains a list of suicide prevention hotlines for countries all over the world. Also, if you don’t feel up to actually talking to someone on the phone, StopSuicide maintains a list of online instant messaging and chat suicide prevention resources.

    You are not alone in this. There are ways to treat depression. Please contact people that can help you. Being depressed often makes it feel like you don’t have any more options. But that is a lie. That is just the depression talking. These feeling you have won’t last forever. We are in this with you, and we will all be cheering for you to get through this!
     
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  5. Never Again

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    Hey man. Look, I don’t think there’s much use in suicide hotlines. The majority of people there don’t understand and simply use comforting voices. The truth is that suicide, in some cases, is not wholly unreasonable. Better to die than be tortured, it seems to me.

    But you have what seems to be a wonderful girlfriend. She’s human like anyone else, so she is going to have sexual urges. It’s not easy to maintain a LDR precisely because of this (and lack of intimacy otherwise, of course). And yet she contents herself with mere sex scenes from movies? When she has access to more explicit content? I mean, why YouTube when you have pornhub? This indicates that she is not using more explicit content. And you guys sleep together over the phone? It’s atypical sure, but sweet and endearing. I’m honestly jealous. She seems truly pure. I’d bet she’s even picture being with you in those moments.

    I don’t know what else you have going in your life, but that is pure gold. Worth more than all the rest that life has to offer as far as I am concerned. Because of this, I feel that perhaps your problem is purely a psychiatric problem. That is, your suffering may not be caused by external factors, but internal psychological and neurochemical issues. Seek both psychiatric and psychotherapeutic help and I have little doubt things will improve. Research for yourself methods for traditional depression as well as treatment-resistant depression (which you may have).

    And for the love of god, keep that girl close. Treat her well and try not to fight with her. She’s a unicorn. The kind of girl guys search for, but never find. I’m rooting for you two.
     
  6. CTRL + DEL

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    How about you ask her why she's doing it instead of getting suicidal over her wrong actions?
    That seems to me the most obvious and healthy thing to do.
     
  7. Still I don't get why yiu want to kill yourself ? It's a life problem and can be solved :)
     
  8. ReclaimedLife

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    Hey Mr. Oxymoron.

    What you are going through seems to be very tough for you right now. Can you please go a bit more into detail about your relationship? LDR can be really really hard.
    How often can you guys actually see each other? How is the time when you see each other?

    It sounds like you are a bit younger, please let us know your age.
    And killing yourself is out of the question, even if you feel llke it right now. Life can be amazing, even if that is not the case right now for you.
    I have been in your position where i wanted to kill myself as well when i was at around age 17 until 21. And i am really glad that i didn't.
    I learned so much, experienced so many amazing things by now, it would have only been a waste. Nobody should ever kill themself because of any relationship.

    Let us help you in learning how to deal with your pain and your emotions. Talk to us. It will help you.
     
  9. luxe

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    You don't need to kill yourself :/
     
  10. yyz33

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    Yes she wants sex she is human. LDR is tough. What she does is out of your control. I would just let her do what she wants and you do what you want. ITs tough I understand you feeling bad about it, ldr typically does not work because of the lack of physical connection.
     

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