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In a new relationship, after ending a decade long relationship...

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by dayday9, Oct 3, 2021.

  1. Oct 3, 2021 #1
    dayday9

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    Hi everyone.

    I'm writing today just to talk about something that I'm going through, and I hope no one minds. Earlier this year I made the decision to get out of a toxic ten year relationship with a partner of mine and, now, I'm in a new one that I'm much happier in.

    The thing is, I'm about to start a reboot. My current partner and I are so happy together and I want to be able to enjoy our time together sexually. We're both long distance, so I at least have some wiggle room and time to get my reboot worked on before I see him and we connect.

    I have a couple of questions.

    My problem is mostly DE. We like to have sex on the phone, but I don't really finish. I have no problem getting rowdy and for him to get me going, but it's just finishing that is difficult for me.

    I am going to start my reboot today and hope for the best. I'm deleting my stash and not looking at any thing that I would consider pornographic for as long as it takes.

    Would having phone sex with my partner ruin the reboot, though? I'm just unsure. I would like to continue having phone sex with him because we both enjoy it, but if it doesn't help with my reboot, then I'm not sure what I should do.

    Thank you so much.
     
    dayday9, Oct 3, 2021
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  2. Oct 4, 2021 #2
    p1n1983

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    Good for you.

    Wait.. have you ever meet this new guy in person?

    I would definitevely get my shit together with porn or anything else before starting a new relatinship.
    Remember, you are sharing this addiction with your new partner.. don't you better share you happiness and not addicted life with him? Moreover, if he is willing to share this addiction you have, then is probable he is going to share his on baggage with you.

    If you don't have your shit together you are going to attract people that also don't have their shit together, maybe like the toxic relationship you had before.
     
    p1n1983, Oct 4, 2021
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  3. Oct 4, 2021 #3
    ANewFocus

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    You define the boundaries of your reboot. In my opinion, having phone sex might be too close to stimulation of porn and would likely make you crave porn harder and make recovery more difficult.
     
    ANewFocus, Oct 4, 2021
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  4. Oct 4, 2021 #4
    Trobone

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