Insights & Advice For People Living With Paraphilia

Guilt is a good thing because it will lead us to certain things.
I believe shame has also a function.
Guilt has to do with what we do. We can feel guilt about things we have done.
Shame has to do with who we are. We feel ashamed of who we are.
Not easily to separate, but I have learned to recognize my shame. And that was not easy.

I agree with you that there are reasons for somebody to eat too much. Yes gluttony. But for sure, there can be an underlying issue that has to be addressed. Like porn, eating can be a way to give us some temporarily comfort.

I think fetishes háve everything to do with ethics and morals and faith.
For example: I developed a so called sissy fetish. I never saw so much filth and impurity in these videos.
When I choose to set my moral boundaries at a more healthy height, it helped me a lot to cut that filthy crap out of my life.
It's impossible to see these things separately as they are connected in our lives somehow.
Faith, ethics and morals are just ways to hélp us to grow over our fetishes if we keep them high and stick with them.

It's a good thing you find a way to fit your fetish in your life without feeling ashamed or guilty.
But who says that you just haven't numbed your conscience?
Every time you give into this coping mechanism, you try to cope with something that needs to be hidden.
As I said earlier, you should skip that for a couple of years and then develop other ways to ease yourself.
But of course, everybody walks his own path and only the man in the mirror knows what he really needs.

For me personally, I've dealt with my attachment issues, restored my morals and I never ever go back to crossdressing again. It was not who I really was.

 

My experience is that shame disappears when I talk about my "secrets" to som

Strange that you react on my post with 2 videos.
Negative core beliefs?
Yes I had them for years.
Since I went through my recovery by facing the deep shit, I got freed from that ignorance.

Again I say: When one heal the wounds, the plaster has become unnecessary.

That enough for me now.
Good luck in the recovery, whatever your way you choose.