Introduce myself and some questions

Hi @ht_commit ! Welcome to NoFap !

I think if you never wanna do PMO in your life again or for a period of time, you gotta have a reason for that. Because when you have no reason to quit PMO you will have no goal to reach. So you gotta ask yourself first: Why am I quitting ? For me, I'm quitting because :

- This is not how I supposed to be like.
- I want to lighten my brain so it doesn't always focus on porn anymore so I can improve my focus
- I want to live the real life

That is why I quit.
Now I'll answer your questions

1. I think if you accidentialy see nudes on the street and not intentionally it doesn't count as a relapse, but if you masturbate it counts as a relapse. When you see nudes on Snapchat it counts as a relapse because you searched for it and intentionally did it.

2. Well i don't know about that but you sure gotta stop playing your willy cause it will lead you to masturbation at the end.

3. Chances are that you had a "wet dream" — something that can be embarrassing and confusing, but is completely normal. A wet dream is also known as a nocturnal emission. Usually this happens during dreams that have sexual images. Sometimes guys wake up from a wet dream, but sometimes they sleep through it.

That's it. Btw i lived in Germany too for 4 years and i can speak german. But i'm from Indonesia.

 

Hey @ht_commit ,

First Welcome to NoFap! Glad you are here and you are in the right place.

I know this is not really an answer. I'd apologize for that, but I don't want to give you my answer, I want you to find your own truth.

I'd recommend reading the NoFap Glossary and look up "PSUBS" https://www.nofap.com/glossary/

First, it's a good thing to wash. Ears, toes, underarms, etc. Since you are a European I assume you are not circumcised. So, I seriously have no ESH here. Being an American I'm circumcised and so I don't have to "wash under". (Note: I am NOT in favor of infant circumcision).

But, only you know if you are washing or wanking.

I can't control what I do during my sleep. So, my ESH is that I would not count that as a relapse for myself.

I'm just a regular member on here, so take what I say as my experience. I found that I needed to:

1. Learn the NoFap program.

2. Get involved with the community.

The best resource I found was the “Getting Started with NoFap” guide. It is on the NoFap homepage and you can download it for free from this link https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/

Then, watch this video:



It is really good and explains so much about how the blasting of porn images into the brain in high definition on high speed internet while slamming porn sounds into the ears with headphones can literally change the way your brain demands sexual stimulation.

The video explains it better than I can.

Also, a great page is https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/ my experience is that by reading every link and watching every video, I learned so much.

Then, I got involved with the community. I'm not anyone special on here, I don't have any magic powers. But, I can say hello to new members, post my journal entries, remember to “like” peoples posts, and offer my experience, strength and hope where appropriate.

Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

--> L

PS -

One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Reading other's stories with their victories and even defeats is a big part of my program.

I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work.

Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

@LeoJohn - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/159500/
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@Iron Patience - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155794/
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@ludwig525 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155658/
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@PatrickR - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139570/
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@GeeWhizz - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/152127/
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@Sunshadow - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/75108/
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There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.

This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.

 

Welcome to Nofap. This is the greatest place I have ever found to work on my sobriety.

 

I have foot fetish too, when i saw a foot in instagram i suddenly stop and try to see some feet. Am i abusing the rules?

 

Hey @Devrim Aydemir ,

I would really like to give you a "yes or no" answer. But, I'm going to restrain myself. I try not to share my opinion, but rather my experience, strength and hope (ESH).

My ESH is that something that would be a p-Sub for me might not be for someone else. Also, behavior where I see a p-Sub might be me seeking p-Subs. For someone else that same behavior might be just accidentally encountering a p-Sub.

So, the short version is that you are going to have to decide the answer.

The question you have to answer is two fold:

1. Was the first image of a foot you saw a relapse because you were on a page on instagram where you knew you might encounter pictures of feet. If so, would that qualify as a relapse?

2. Was the follow on behavior where you went looking for images of feet a relapse? Do p-Subs count as a relapse? If so, was seeking them out a relapse?

To help you decide for yourself I'd recommend reading these NoFap Pages:

1. For a definition of p-Sub look at the glossary: https://www.nofap.com/glossary/
2. For a guide to rebooting modes read: https://www.nofap.com/rebooting/

I'd say I was sorry for not giving you a definitive answer, but I'm not sorry. My ESH is that I have to decide these things for myself.

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Actually you did give me a very definitive answer.

1.I randomly encountered pics of feet. But i looked. No lies about here. But it didn't make me feel horny or a tough of "i want to masturbate right now." But i get your point. I will be cautious about this.

2.No it is not relapse for me. I just love to look at it. In some time yes, i did mastubate with feet videos but in normal, i just like to seeing it. I am not following foot accounts or p-sub pages. Like i said, i get your point brother...

 

Hey @Devrim Aydemir ,

Glad you are doing good.

--> L