I first joined this forum a few months ago while trying to figure what was going on with my BF and his lack of sexual interest. After reading numerous stories I became convinced PMO was the issue. I out right asked him and he admitted to porn use but he didn’t feel like it was excessive Enough to cause pied/DE. Since then due to a tragedy and loss we haven’t had time to work on things. I’m supportive and by his side but during this time I really started to question something’s that a few weeks ago I was sure about. I was sure PMO was the main factor contributing to our dead bedroom so to speak. So I started bullet pointing factors. Male late 30s Spent his 30s without any length of relationship. ( alone) Works 7 days a week and has for 10 years. He literally only takes of work for us to travel. And still manages to keep his house very clean. Dishes, laundry, sweeping, mopping, all of it he does by himself. Hair loss- I thought was hereditary because he was so young but I have noticed none of the other men in his family have hair loss. I first met him at around 33-34. And hair loss was present then. He is not overweight by any stretch but does carry some weight at his waistline and out front. I’m the beginning he had lost this weight ( active sex life) but has since put it back on ( sex life non existent) Breast tissue is fairly soft, with notable fatty deposits due to weight gain present. Minimal chest, arm, back hair, Very low libido and thinks it’s because our love is deeper than that. Family history of diabetes No consistent exercise the last several years but when running everyday he appears to have slight increase in libido and seems to have stronger erections occasionally He says I can go through his phone anytime No home computer He doesn’t exhibit some of the behaviors I read about here like anger, hiding in the bathroom, turning things around when confronted, ignoring me, or showing lack of interest in our relationship. He plans regular date nights every week. Makes effort to surprise me with last minute day dates. Always loving, and puts me first. He rubs my back nearly every night. Brings me coffee in bed every single day. All that to say is it possible that he is just having normal ED issues? Low testosterone maybe? Early onset diabetes? And admitted to porn use because occasionally he uses ot to satisfy himself because he suffering from ED and doesn’t know what else to do? I’m afraid I jumped to conclusions but I’m also afraid I’ll make excuses to not face up to something like PA. I just have realized that from a time stand point he is rarely alone so PMO to an excess that would cause pied and low libido is almost impossible unless he is going to the bathroom 3x a day to do so at work? Yes he has DE, and has always struggled to maintain erection strong enough for sex, he has made statements about “ going to a place in his mind” when attempting to arouse, made statements about too much masturbation ( to keep erection strength up) and Seems to shy or unwilling to open up in this area. When you hit the high points I almost feel like PMO was used only out of loneliness from time to time and only continued because actually having intercourse is near impossible and he doesn’t know how to handle it? So is it really porn addiction or could I have misjudged? If it truly is ED why wouldn’t he tell me? Why wouldn’t he want to get help so we could be intimate? What are the fears he might be having and have I further contributed but insinuating porn addiction is the problem? Appreciate any insight!