It does not look like porn was the problem...

It's a long story but I will try to make it as short as possible.

I am 39, been married for over 20 years. I was fapping to porn for as long as I can remember. My routine was to PMO on the days when I did not have real sex with my wife. That would effectively sum up to having an orgasm every day. About a year ago I started to develop ED issues during intercourse for the first time. After going online to seek help for this problem, I found out about the whole NoFap and that porn was to blame. I stopped all porn and masturbation, and stayed PMO free for over a year. All my ED problems went away, and frequency of orgasm went to "wife day" levels, which is 2-3 times a week. Since I was craving more frequent release, I eventually worked out an arrangement with my wife where she would provide daily release for me, mostly oral. Well, after whole month of daily orgasms, I am at square one - soft erections during intercourse unless I dial down frequency of sex to 2-3 times a week. So there you have it - to me it does not look like it was the porn all along, it's simply how often I get off... Since I did not have these issues before, it's probably the age or stress levels, or whatever else it is that screws with me, but it's not the porn. There was zero porn and zero masturbation for over a year for me.