From not masturbating I've noticed these two most prominent benifits. I feel more attracted to real women and women seem to be more attracted to me and being intimate feels more intense, deep and passionate. I thought I could go on for months and months more with this Nofap and then this... From before nofap I could last 10-20mins in bed. Now, with the same stimulation as before from my partner, I literally last 10-30 seconds. I have to reduce stimulation by a huge amount so i don't come in seconds. It's very frustrating. On the one hand I feel strong with the self control and the other benifits but this is annoying me too. When I relapsed it took myself about 10-15 seconds to come. Completely avoiding sex is not an option as I am in a very good relationship with a girl I love for over a year now and it would be unfair on her. Ive been porn free for 6-7 months now.
1z3, could you go for a second round? My bestie and I were discussing this today. What if you came in that first 10-30 seconds, and went for a second round? That second round should certainly last longer.
Yeah we would do that. Sometimes going 3 or more times lol. But even then I'll come in less than a minute at full speed when she isn't on top. And you have to wait like 5-10 mins between each.
Warming up slowly helps, having sex more helps too, also kratom if you can think of nothing else. Kegels. Squats. Do you pay attention to your breathing when your having sex? Where is your focus during? Really it may be more about getting your brain retrained and re-acclimated to your new found sensitivity. Your body is not used to it yet, but I would think after awhile you would adjust and have even more control.
wow, im having the same problem. long distance and 100 days in and busting after a couple of seconds (pre NoFap). We havent done the deed after i started the NoFap journey but I am worried that i will experience the same things as you.
I don't really concentrate on my breathing during sex. In the past (pre nofap and when I watched porn) my focus would think of other things. Now I'm in a long term relationship and no porn I concentrate solely in the sex.
It can help to focus on your body or her body and not your genitals and keep your breathing steady and deep. Calms the body down.
I feel this too. It is what it is -> premature ejaculation because we were conditioned to "feel okay" physically to cum early during our fapping days which is still there even though mentally we don't want. Other major causes? Increased sensitivity and stronger urges.
