It's so stronggg

Deleted Account · Apr 12, 2017

8 days and the urges are unbearably strong. I edged for a couple minutes this morning when I woke up (stupid) until I was able to build up the strength to stop myself, but now the urges are constantly gnawing at me. It's only a matter of time before they come back in overwhelming force. Help me guys, how do I make it through this!!

ps129 · Apr 12, 2017

i just replied with a suggestion on another thread -

"try to identify your triggers, theres always a few things that are most likely to lead to you give in. then change your pattern when you experience those triggers.

i find it best to replace that pattern with another and reinforce the hell out of it. one of my 'weak' moments would be when i wake up with morning wood. so now i keep lemon water next to my bed every night, and when i wake up with the urge, i chug the lemon water. the bitterness shocks my system and gets my mind off the urge

but do it every time so the new behavior becomes your regular pattern. the more shocking to your system the new behavior is, the more effective it will be"

and dude, DONT EDGE!!! just dont do it. read about how edging fucked up my progress - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/experience-so-far-with-doing-an-extreme-reboot.98264/

ive changed my definition of relapse to include edging. and now i dont do any sexual fantasy or kill any erections as they come up

J247 · Apr 12, 2017

Just wait another week and they'll disappear. The flatline is a double edged sword. It works to help alleviate these urges, but then they're gone and it's weird.

Deleted Account · Apr 12, 2017

J247 said: ↑

Just wait another week and they'll disappear. The flatline is a double edged sword. It works to help alleviate these urges, but then they're gone and it's weird.
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Weird sounds a lot better than what I'm going through right now haha. I hope I have the willpower to make it that far.

ps129 said: ↑

i just replied with a suggestion on another thread -

"try to identify your triggers, theres always a few things that are most likely to lead to you give in. then change your pattern when you experience those triggers.

i find it best to replace that pattern with another and reinforce the hell out of it. one of my 'weak' moments would be when i wake up with morning wood. so now i keep lemon water next to my bed every night, and when i wake up with the urge, i chug the lemon water. the bitterness shocks my system and gets my mind off the urge

but do it every time so the new behavior becomes your regular pattern. the more shocking to your system the new behavior is, the more effective it will be"

and dude, DONT EDGE!!! just dont do it. read about how edging fucked up my progress - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/experience-so-far-with-doing-an-extreme-reboot.98264/

ive changed my definition of relapse to include edging. and now i dont do any sexual fantasy or kill any erections as they come up
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Wow that lemon water idea is ingenious. I don't think I'll use lemon water but I'll try to think of something else I can use as a "shock therapy". I've started building good habits such as reading and meditation and they are really good and useful but they are general habits that I do throughout the day, not ones that save me and replace the pattern when I am "triggered".

And I know.. edging is terrible, I did it again about an hour ago... I know if I don't somehow slap myself into focus I will eventually edge again and it will only get worse until I eventually O.

ps129 · Apr 12, 2017

Bowcaster said: ↑

And I know.. edging is terrible, I did it again about an hour ago... I know if I don't somehow slap myself into focus I will eventually edge again and it will only get worse until I eventually O.
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its not just hitting the O thats a problem, even if you edge without O you're still taking backwards steps. edging is stimulating the same pathways in your brain that are linked to the overall problem. its like picking at a scab instead of letting your wound heal.

on top of that, not reaching O will add to your frustration and make the urges stronger.

you can try cold showers too. without getting into details, a few years ago (pre-nofap) i had to not have sex with my live-in girlfriend for a week. toughest. fucking. thing. ever. she was right there! i took 4-5 cold showers a day and after a few days my brain just got sick of the constant shocks, and urges became much easier to control.

Deleted Account · Apr 12, 2017

ps129 said: ↑

its not just hitting the O thats a problem, even if you edge without O you're still taking backwards steps. edging is stimulating the same pathways in your brain that are linked to the overall problem. its like picking at a scab instead of letting your wound heal.

on top of that, not reaching O will add to your frustration and make the urges stronger.

you can try cold showers too. without getting into details, a few years ago (pre-nofap) i had to not have sex with my live-in girlfriend for a week. toughest. fucking. thing. ever. she was right there! i took 4-5 cold showers a day and after a few days my brain just got sick of the constant shocks, and urges became much easier to control.
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So whenever you had an urge you jumped into a cold shower? How do you even get yourself into the shower haha? Usually I'm so paralyzed by the urge that I just lie in my bed until either the urge dies away or until I give in.. I mean the cold shower sounds like a good idea but I'm not sure how I could get myself to do it when all my brain can think about is how much I want to PMO..

ps129 · Apr 12, 2017

Bowcaster said: ↑

So whenever you had an urge you jumped into a cold shower? How do you even get yourself into the shower haha? Usually I'm so paralyzed by the urge that I just lie in my bed until either the urge dies away or until I give in.. I mean the cold shower sounds like a good idea but I'm not sure how I could get myself to do it when all my brain can think about is how much I want to PMO..
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there's no easy solution man, youre going to have to push yourself past the urge or you'll always be a slave to the addiction. this is the price we pay for fucking up our brain with PMO. but once you get past the worst of it it gets a lot easier! take it one day at a time, one urge at a time. you'll get there

Deleted Account · Apr 12, 2017

ps129 said: ↑

there's no easy solution man, youre going to have to push yourself past the urge or you'll always be a slave to the addiction. this is the price we pay for fucking up our brain with PMO. but once you get past the worst of it it gets a lot easier! take it one day at a time, one urge at a time. you'll get there
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