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That's it. 90 days of hard mode complete without a relapse :)

Thanks to all of you for this community and all the support. There have been a lot of positive changes in my life, including my wonderful new girlfriend who has been very understanding and supportive. I am truly grateful. I will switch back to normal mode, which I have already started sometime in February. I now that the urges may come back, but I feel confident in myself and I know where I can get support in case I need it.

I encourage you all to keep on fighting your way through the urges and struggles. The rewards are well worth it!
 
I got rid of my smartphone, I'm using a regular phone with no internet
Good old days:) I remember my uncle had one with a motorcycle-battery back in the 80's. No porn on that thing:D.
Today is Day 36. No urges, bad day at work but very happy when I got home. Don't really know why, but I just wondering around smiling. Maybe it has gone to my head...:rolleyes:..nah.
I got a wierd feeling sometimes that I'm into some secret society "Hands on the bedquilt".
We are all into this together to become a better person, and because we care for the loved ones around us. Keep strong!
 
That's it. 90 days of hard mode complete without a relapse :)

Thanks to all of you for this community and all the support. There have been a lot of positive changes in my life, including my wonderful new girlfriend who has been very understanding and supportive. I am truly grateful. I will switch back to normal mode, which I have already started sometime in February. I now that the urges may come back, but I feel confident in myself and I know where I can get support in case I need it.

I encourage you all to keep on fighting your way through the urges and struggles. The rewards are well worth it!
Congratulation! You made it:)!
I hope I won't see you here again;). But if you feel the well known itch, you are welcome back. Good luck with your new girlfriend!
 
Day 10 here. So far smooth sailing. My old habits of wasting time on social media and sleep beckon to me like crazy but I am going to try my best today to not do that. Just gotta do 2 more of these streaks and 30 days is mine once again.
 
Hey guys,

I'm back at day 1. Had a relapse last night that turned into a binge. At first I felt all the shame and guilt that comes with relapse, but I was able to talk to some people who encouraged me to just learn from this and come at it stronger. I had an appointment with my therapist tonight, and it was really helpful with this to identify that this relapse wasn't random, and that I can be better equipped to prevent this in the future.
For me specifically, a HUGE trigger I hadn't been paying attention to was getting really defensive with my girlfriend. It seems as though most of my relapses have started or were at least set up by a fight with my gf where I will get really defensive and perceive I am being attacked. We worked through some really practical solutions to this and how to deescalate those situations, and I feel as though it's just a matter of putting it into practice now.
I do feel grateful that this relapse, though initially frustrating, may have lead to a big discovery in terms of my communication skills in my relationship, and that alone makes me hopeful that I will be able to make it 90 and beyond, one day at a time.
 
I relapsed. I PMOed twice already today. 10 days of not PMOIng gone. I am wanting to continue to PMO. I don't want to at the same time. Any tips or tricks. Please help!
you should hang out with friends, leave the internet for now and use the porn block extension for chrome, use your time properly, appeciate women as someone with feelings non an sexual object
 
day 67, Last night I had a dream where I masturbated while watching porno me on my cell, after finishing I felt so lonely and sad and disgusted with myself. By dreams like this I remember how my life was before and I'm happy to have left that behind. friends have to fight to overcome this shit.
I'm feeling so motivated
Bye porn, Bye masturbation, Bye depression :) :) :)
 
That's cool.But I'm so scared rn.The fear of failure.I've Tried and failed many times on my own.Biggest I could go for was 13 days in last 7 years.But I won't give up hope.This community is really helpful and motivating.
By posting and declaring you're in, you've officially joined. Welcome.
 
That's cool.But I'm so scared rn.The fear of failure.I've Tried and failed many times on my own.Biggest I could go for was 13 days in last 7 years.But I won't give up hope.This community is really helpful and motivating.

I hear your fearful. Take it one day at a time and don't make failure into a big deal. It's not. Life is a series of failures until we finally succeed.
 
Day 5. Feeling low energy and lack of motivation in general. Haven't been very motivated or ambitious for the last few months. Hoping my reboot will bring back my passion. Some light cravings at times tonight, not a big deal.

Hoping that my fellows are having an easy reboot. If not, reach out, hit the panic button, whatever you have to do, just don't PMO.
 
Day 5. Feeling low energy and lack of motivation in general. Haven't been very motivated or ambitious for the last few months. Hoping my reboot will bring back my passion. Some light cravings at times tonight, not a big deal.

Hoping that my fellows are having an easy reboot. If not, reach out, hit the panic button, whatever you have to do, just don't PMO.
It's a journey worth all the hardships brother.Go watch a movie or some UFC video if that hepls.Get some sleep.The last thing you said applies to you as well.We're all with you.More strength to you!
 
Hey guys,

I'm back at day 1. Had a relapse last night that turned into a binge. At first I felt all the shame and guilt that comes with relapse, but I was able to talk to some people who encouraged me to just learn from this and come at it stronger. I had an appointment with my therapist tonight, and it was really helpful with this to identify that this relapse wasn't random, and that I can be better equipped to prevent this in the future.
For me specifically, a HUGE trigger I hadn't been paying attention to was getting really defensive with my girlfriend. It seems as though most of my relapses have started or were at least set up by a fight with my gf where I will get really defensive and perceive I am being attacked. We worked through some really practical solutions to this and how to deescalate those situations, and I feel as though it's just a matter of putting it into practice now.
I do feel grateful that this relapse, though initially frustrating, may have lead to a big discovery in terms of my communication skills in my relationship, and that alone makes me hopeful that I will be able to make it 90 and beyond, one day at a time.
I keep my fingers crossed. You made it this far, so I know you can do it. Do count those days you were fapfree back in your head together with the new days ahead. This one time does not erase all the effort you worked into those days. You actually was fapfree all that time. Be proud of that and stay strong now.
 
I watched Spartacus TV show last night. I love the show except it has several explicit scenes. I did not feel anything at thing at that time. In fact a few times I even looked away and waited for the scenes to pass. Not sure if that did any damage to my goal as it may have subtly fed some of my P brain nerves!
 
Stay away from that show bro!!It does affect. The scenes are very arousing.You'll end up jerking off to it.Watch a good movie or go for some other TV series which is not as explicit as Spartacus.More strength to you!Try forgetting about it.Make yourself calm and feel normal and let it fade away.Don't end up thinking about it again and again as it will push you more into the same stuff.
Regards
Sam
I watched Spartacus TV show last night. I love the show except it has several explicit scenes. I did not feel anything at thing at that time. In fact a few times I even looked away and waited for the scenes to pass. Not sure if that did any damage to my goal as it may have subtly fed some of my P brain nerves!
 
Day 31
I made it to a month and that's a huge milestone for me. I've been feeling kinda depressed lately and generally sad. I also was dealing with a lot of stress recently and some of my good habits I've been trying to start up are slipping. Going on each day seems to become harder and harder
 
Day 18...


I came in my sleep last night.

I'd say it's to do with me thinking more about PMO in the last couple of days than before. Weirdly, last nights dreams was nothing erotic. It was literally the feeling of my rubbing my body against my bed (which is weird because I sleep on my back) and I did feel the sense of guilt in my sleep after it happened. I woke up in the middle of the night and couldn't get back to sleep after feeling very guilty. I don't think wet dreams are inevitable, had I not thought about what gets me going I wouldn't have created a mess in bed last night...


So, have I broken the challenge? I'm now confused.

When I refrain from masturbating after doing it consistently for a period of time, I find that my body compensates by having a nocturnal emission usually one or two in the first month or so. I haven't found it to impede the benefits of a reboot. I have also had feelings of guilt, but I identify those feelings with perfectionism and my ego mind trying to get me to feel bad about something in which I have no control over. I don't think you've broken the challenge. I think you're being hard on yourself. Thinking more about PMO can be part of the reboot. Eventually those thoughts will subside. It's a positive sign.
 
When I refrain from masturbating after doing it consistently for a period of time, I find that my body compensates by having a nocturnal emission usually one or two in the first month or so. I haven't found it to impede the benefits of a reboot. I have also had feelings of guilt, but I identify those feelings with perfectionism and my ego mind trying to get me to feel bad about something in which I have no control over. I don't think you've broken the challenge. I think you're being hard on yourself. Thinking more about PMO can be part of the reboot. Eventually those thoughts will subside. It's a positive sign.
I'm on day 3 and I kind of felt some sexual dream last night.It was me jerking off.I didn't come.The interesting part is I have literally no urges for PMO since last 2 days but I still had a dream like that so I guess it's part of journey.And I've been reading a lot of threads here and most people are making this big mistake of giving a lot of space to the thought that they're refraining from porn.In my opinion, it creates an unnecessary burden to the journey.It's okay to reach out for help but if you're in the journey to rebooting yourself, try to give less thought to the Very thing and stay calm and positive.
 
Day 31
I made it to a month and that's a huge milestone for me. I've been feeling kinda depressed lately and generally sad. I also was dealing with a lot of stress recently and some of my good habits I've been trying to start up are slipping. Going on each day seems to become harder and harder
Hang in there!It's perfectly natural to feel depressed.Our mind has programmed itself like that.The only solution it presents you with is to PMO which is a trap.Yes our mind can also lay traps for us to feed its subconscious self.Try to stay active here and let us all to be a part of your journey too.That will surely help your subconscious to stay in the right place and ultimately less urges.I hope you do well. ;)
 
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