Okay so I have a really bad problem with kiking random girls to get me off. I think this is making my addiction to pmo 10x worse. I am lonely and get off to the feeling of being wanted./: ... which is sad Because I am only 16 ... well even when I delete my kik, my boredom will will catch up to me and cause me to redownload the app. I swear I am fine without pmo when I am not talking to girls... any suggestions? I mean would giving up my phone help out?
You know, when I set my goal, I decided that the reboot would come first. At least until I reached my goal. Rebooting was my highest priority. For me, that meant not only getting rid of porn, but of all the things that eventually lead me to pmo. I really wanted this reboot to work, and so I was willing to sacrifice a few things. So, out went Facebook and all those websites that weren't helpful at all. I stopped using my tablet or laptop in bed. I tried going to bed early. Whatever it was, I wanted the safest possible setting for my reboot. Whenever I realized that something was making me lose momentum, I stopped it. Recovery comes first, was my credo. It hurt, I wanted some of it back, but I always could say: "Well, go for 90 days and decide again then". Of course, the trick is, that now that 90 days are over, I have a clearer view on what I really need or not. And some of the stuff won't be back. Looks like you've realized that kik is not really helping you stay away from pmo. So, I suggest that you delete it for the time being. Until you're stronger and you can decide on whether to reinstall it. If you don't cover your weak spots, that's where all the attacks will come in ... And by the way, boredom is one of my biggest weak spots. I had to take measures and get used to getting busy. Don't give up!
Bluffy I'd delete the app completely and pidgeon hole kik use the same as you would PMO use and just don't go there if you're trying to reboot. You will then probably come out of your reboot realising how superficial and fake it is (much like porn in general) and not want to go back there at all. If there are any people off your kik account that you feel you would like to build a healthy IRL relationship with by all means share numbers with them before you reset your account so you can keep in contact with them by means other than kik. But please realise interactions on kik with girls, much like using porn to get off, are purely fake (as in non real life interactions) and fantasized situations in which you can get easy dopamine kicks from that will inhibit your ability to reboot properly and achieve the goal you want to achieve, whatever it may be.
I remember being that young and going on sites like that... chat sites or chatroulette and the like. And it was exciting (sounds stupid to say now) but it was fun and I would stay up all night sometimes video-chatting or just talking with girls, and it was like an addiction. I would PMO almost every night if not multiple times in a day. Talking with girls like that and being online late at night is definitely a recipe for disaster. I would say just delete the app, and start doing things to keep you busy... play video games instead... go workout or go for a bike ride, hang out with some guy friends (just because hanging out with a girl might just make you more horny) or do whatever else you like that you know will keep you distracted. You can do this, just keep thinking about how badly you want to see that counter hit one-hundred percent! Also, when your counter hits completion, don't stop there! Make it for a longer amount of time Good luck!
The above advice is spot on. During your reboot (alt least 90 days) treat kik and any other dating sites as you would for PMO. The app is linked with your PMO addiction, therefore you cannot expect to succesfully fight one and not the other. Delete the app and don't re-install it! Perhaps you should consider a counter for kik as well. I have spoken with a few women whose PMO addiction also revolved around kik. Their situation sounds a lot like yours: "I'm lonely and getting off to the feeling of being wanted". So does that mean that kik is just a place where lonely porn addicts congregate? It doesn't sound so appealing when put like that. I empathise with your feelings of loneliness and wanting to be wanted. I also used escape pathways (such as porn/ chat-rooms) throughout my addiction. I find that re-enforcing self love practices is a good way to deal with these troubling emotions. Such tools include meditation, eating healthy, and exercising/ looking after your body. Cold showers also help. Although you will still experience these emotions of loneliness, wanting to be loved etc, you can lead yourself to find better things to do with your time than watch porn/ M to kik. These healthy practices will also help you improve your self esteem and start getting out into situations where you can start bonding with real people and start making real connections. All the best
