Know that - there is hope for everyone

I am 35 and have been trying to stop PMO for almost 13 years (masturbated since i was 11). I am really glad to have found a forum like this and read other people's struggles with this addiction! The third week has alway been difficult for me. In the last 13 years I have always wanted to stop PMO, but I never did more than 3 weeks, but now as you can see I am on day 26 and for the first time in my life I did it. From day 17 until day 22 it was really hard and was tempted to mess up, but then i thought to myself - do I really want to get an old man and not control this addiction? And the answer was a big 'NO'. Now that I know what messed up my life, I am more than determined to do anything possible to stop for good. Stopping pmo alone won't help 100%, you've got to do more in life to grow in every way. For example, let's take something as simple as this: I bought a bicycle a while ago so that I could go out and cycle any time I felt bored. I took dancing salsa classes and now I have become a very good dancer because of this, lol. I am studying two foreign languages at the same time (that is the fifth language that I am doing). Do you know what I mean, you need to beat this addiction by doing something else, just by merely stopping PMO will not make sure that in the future you will not go back to it! This is like a drug and one day or another all of us will fall unless we have a back up plan. I can seriosly say that I have had a better time withoug PMO, just on the 10'th day I was more confident, two ladies were staring at me and liked my energy. This is not a placebo I swear to all of you who are reading this, this is real. I know this because when I didn't have any problem with porn 14 - 15 years ago I was very energetic, I was happier, I made others happy, they trusted me more with things, ladies used to like me more. Do you understand what I am saying, this is real life proof that I had all of this things before this crazy addiction took it all from me, my friends, my job, I wasn't getting on with my family, I was angry most of the time, i didn't appreciate little things in life and took almost everything for granted (sometimes I don't believe how shallow I was). All that time that I wasted will never come back to me, life is so short and now that I came to realise this more and more it's not too late, I can still do something with my life, I can still study something, I can still start to love people unconditionally, I still have time to make new friends, I still have time to love and spend more time with my family. This is a sad little story that I want to tell you guys, and every time I think about it, it makes me cry. When I used to live in London my mom and dad came to visit me for a week (I hadn't seen them in 5 years).. On the second day I would close myself in the living room and I would PMO, and so on the third day instead of spending time with my precious parents that I hadn't seen in such a long time. Then a short while later my mother died of cancer. Then I was mad at myself for wasting my time an watching porn instead of giving love and talk to my parents (what a f...... idiot). I have been beating myself up for years since then for not stopping this addiction . My point is guys, spend time with your loved ones, support them, help people around you, study something. If you don't stop right now you will regret it for wasting your life and not doing anything about it... To be continued

 

I am 35 and have been trying to stop PMO for almost 13 years (masturbated since i was 11). I am really glad to have found a forum like this and read other people's struggles with this addiction! The third week has alway been difficult for me. In the last 13 years I have always wanted to stop PMO, but I never did more than 3 weeks, but now as you can see I am on day 26 and for the first time in my life I did it. From day 17 until day 22 it was really hard and was tempted to mess up, but then i thought to myself - do I really want to get an old man and not control this addiction? And the answer was a big 'NO'. Now that I know what messed up my life, I am more than determined to do anything possible to stop for good. Stopping pmo alone won't help 100%, you've got to do more in life to grow in every way. For example, let's take something as simple as this: I bought a bicycle a while ago so that I could go out and cycle any time I felt bored. I took dancing salsa classes and now I have become a very good dancer because of this, lol. I am studying two foreign languages at the same time (that is the fifth language that I am doing). Do you know what I mean, you need to beat this addiction by doing something else, just by merely stopping PMO will not make sure that in the future you will not go back to it! This is like a drug and one day or another all of us will fall unless we have a back up plan. I can seriosly say that I have had a better time without PMO, just on the 10'th day I was more confident, two ladies were staring at me and liked my energy. This is not a placebo I swear to all of you who are reading this, this is real. I know this because when I didn't have any problem with porn 14 - 15 years ago I was very energetic, I was happier, I made others happy, they trusted me more with things, ladies used to like me more. Do you understand what I am saying, this is real life proof that I had all of this things before this crazy addiction took it all from me, my friends, my job, I wasn't getting on with my family, I was angry most of the time, i didn't appreciate little things in life and took almost everything for granted (sometimes I don't believe how shallow I was). All that time that I wasted will never come back to me, life is so short and now that I came to realise this more and more it's not too late, I can still do something with my life, I can still study something, I can still start to love people unconditionally, I still have time to make new friends, I still have time to love and spend more time with my family. This is a sad little story that I want to tell you guys, and every time I think about it, it makes me cry. When I used to live in London my mom and dad came to visit me for a week (I hadn't seen them in 5 years).. On the second day I would close myself in the living room and I would PMO, and so on the third day instead of spending time with my precious parents that I hadn't seen in such a long time. Then a short while later my mother died of cancer. Then I was mad at myself for wasting my time and watching porn instead of giving love and talk to my parents (what a f...... idiot). I have been beating myself up for years since then for not stopping this addiction . My point is guys, spend time with your loved ones, support them, help people around you, study something. If you don't stop right now you will regret it for wasting your life and not doing anything about it... To be continued

 

Thanks man! It's so true, I have felt so selfish for a very long time not caring much about others because of this addiction. Life was just passing us by indeed and we did nothing about it, as if we didn't care much about our own lives. Let's win this battle little by little.

 

Thank you very much for your encouragement guys! Now let's finish this and be real men who respect women and love them as human beings .. God bless you everybody with strength and new energy every day...

 

Thanks man, good luck to you too