I’m new to the program (3 days complete) and thinking about meeting with ladies of the night. Has anyone had these thoughts? What do think about it as an acceptable release if you are abstaining from PM only? Don’t have a girlfriend or anyone else to be partners with. Recommendations on course of action?
It's a personal choice. I use prostitutes alot. Just be careful you don't trade one addiction for another. YMMV, but I will continue to use them because: - there's no one else (a situation that is unlikely to change anytime soon) - I can re-form essential connections between sexual arousal with actual, real women (not pixels) - I can monitor my journey with nofap and hopefully an improvment with PIED as I progress - There is no judgement or expectation of performance - Bypass the bullshit involved in modern dating
Ash22 -thanks for your feedback and experience. Your comments made me think deeper about this subject. Made me think that isn't a hooker very similar to a porn site? Yes, there is physical interaction, but there is no skill required. I balance that with not getting a release. So prior to this program, I would PMO if I didn't have anyone to be with and given I am in the situation where I don't have anyone to be with and not able to PMO it is a strange feeling. I need to get out and start meeting some quality girls.
I want to face the harsh reality, I want to bang and I have been on a long dry spell. I PMO'ed excessively in this spell and got trapped in a cycle of not having sex, then PMO'ing as the substitute. Now that I am doing NoFap, I say to myself 'what the hell am I going to do now?" I haven't had any success recently, my confidence is in the gutter and now I can't PMO. I guess if I keep thinking deeper about it, maybe my confidence will go up if I am able to keep to my NoFap goal and then it will become a virtuous cycle. Sexual health is important to me and having a girlfriend does make me feel more like a man. This is the pain that comes with the process and I will ride the wave to over come it!
I would honestly suggest that you do 90-120 days of cold turkey first and then see how it impacts your life. Emotionless sex without a SO is almost the same thing as MO so pretty much not helpful. I'd honestly stay abstinent. (you'll see wonderful results yourself) and then you'll have a clearer mind to make the right choices.
