So I want to know if this is porn induced or not. I love it when my so would dress up for me but after finding out about my addiction it has stopped and she feels like it is just feeding my addiction or I'm making her a psub. I feel like it is natural to be attracted to lingerie alot to me it was a bit of an obsession but sex itself is an obsession for me so if I get that under control then the other will follow. What I want to know will she feel comfortable enough to do it again and will my fetish remain what it is just be less obsessive?
As long as you are not looking at her as a sex object and appreciating, respecting and loving the divine being who is wearing the lingerie and intending to have a heart-based sexual exchange - then I feel it is perfectly good. on the other hand, if she never wears a lingerie but you look at her like a sex object and forgetting the soul behind her then it becomes problematic.
Thanks both of you I think my real question is will she ever see that I appreciate her enough or if she is too traumatized that it will always trigger her.
You need to find out if you have problem with it or not by yourself. Living PMO free does not mean living without pleasure and your own likes, but we need to be cautious here.
Sadly we cannot know. Perhaps she'll heal and come to enjoy wearing beautiful lingerie for you, perhaps that will always trigger her pain. The only way to find out is to concentrate on your reboot and let your porn-free life rebuild her self-esteem. Time will tell.
Looked after a mates house once, went into his bedroom, put on his wifes underwear and had a fapping good time. Fucken weird sh#t but felt good at the time. Felt a little bit of guilt but it was more of a thrill. Hope he didn't have hidden cameras otherwise that would be embarrassing
I myself have a lingerie and women’s underwear fetish. But if I’m with a woman and I enjoy seeing her in them, I think that’s a pretty normal, safe fetish. As long as I’m not demoralizing her and am appreciating her beauty just for me to see. If your married and want to see your wife in such clothes, IMO it seems perfectly healthy. But if your wanting to see every woman you see in lingerie, then there is still some healing to be done.
I used to have a fetish of wearing women’s underwear also, especially if it was someone I knew. Disgusting, I know. I liked to wear them and MO. Gross, I know. I haven’t thought or had a desire to wear them at all anymore to be honest. I still do like seeing my wife in panties and lingerie. And I used to enjoy being intimate with her while she was wearing them instead of her being completely nude. But to be honest I have enjoyed just her being completely nude when we have been intimate lately.
This is timely for me, as my recent reset was around secretly wearing some sexy thongs and wanting to show off. I've been looking at my long history of fetishes and realized that the anticipation is always more exciting than the reality. I have had fetishes for wearing so many things, but I have never found satisfaction in the reality. When I get what I want, I'm disappointed and I become interested in wearing something more outrageous. I am realizing that sex is just sex and sexy clothes are just clothes. There is no satisfaction to be found. When I finally get that through my thick head, I might finally find peace.
I'm triggered by lingerie (including latex and scuba for some reason). Don'Mt forget that lingerie existed before the TV, VCRs, internet ,etc...so, its always been a way for ladies to dress to impress and to seduce. Lingerie is sold for ladies to look attractive and to spice up sex life isnt it? There is lingerie stores in every med size shopping malls in North America. Lingerie is an undergarment, so its displayed in an intimacy setting...obviously, lingerie, lace and heels were created and still purchase to arouse. Heels can be just part of a dress, depending of the social setting or employment. Skirts are out there to "display" legs....the wearer is obviously willing to show those legs. If legs aren't sexy, of full of varicose veins, then the lady will wear pants more than skirts isn't it?. On vacay, the nice cute ladies with nice bodies will wear bikinis and the fat, ugly, may put a shirt on top of their swimsuit. To me, I started digging lingerie and heels (stiletto,not that shyte platform uglyness) while looking at the Sears catalogue (lol shame on me). Also, as most porn in the 80's displayed ladies wearing lingerie and heels, in my mind it is where it came up for me. Even the sound of heels on hard floor (even at the mall) triggers me...now much less because I worked on reducing my tendency to objectify... My wife also doesn't want to wear lingerie, as she feels like she believes that porn made me love it...I was in 3rd grade, not even able to jerk off yet, and I was fascinated by female teachers well dressed and having sex appeal...If my wife was in better physical shape (she is working on it), she would wear more sexy clothing, but its convenient to her to use P as the reason why she doesnt want to wear some..
@Sackstor , It's not my thing, but I believe that I had that urge a little back in the day. On the other hand, for me, scuba is thing for me...I know its a trigger, but its also some content you can find anywhere, not segregated to P sites. Sometimes, I wonder if that fetish is dissociated from sexuality or not...
I honestly don't know if liking lingerie is a fetish as long as it's just to spice things up and you're not depending on it to get an erection. Every straight man loves him a pretty woman in lingerie. If you don't need it to get hard or excited in any way and it's just there to spice things up and she likes wearing them for you, then go for it.
I am also fascinated with lingerie. Has always been this way and I see no reason to change it or to keep it a secret. If you cannot have sex without your partner wearing lingerie, then that's an issue that needs addressing. Otherwise it's just a preference.
