Losing faith in the reboot/ Am I making mistakes?

First, stop watching Psubs. That will lead to a relapse one of these days.

If Ria is nice, you can investigate further! She doesn't need to be a top model. Are you one? The porn flicks are made with girls having plastic surgery, botox, makeup and airbrushing sometimes. Ria seems to have a situation/secret. Maybe she doesn't want to discuss that situation with you .YMMV.
Maybe she has been abused, has a physical condition, or still thinking about a former BF, etc..

Don't be sad if you are alone. I know, its easier said than done. But trust me, you'll find love. Maybe in the least expected place or situation.

 

Congrats on 120 days! Do you still feel the urges here and there?

 

not really big urges. But Chaser effect gets me a little after real sex (1-2 days after). Also, I made huge progress in women objectification, but summer is coming and yoga pants, and nice clothes are coming out...hard not to look!

 

You'll need to try to avoid P subs and thoughts as much as possible. I know it's not easy but just keep trying and don't MO. Also, I'm sure real sex will not help. I would recommend trying to go the full 90 days first.

Also, at day 28 (and possibly at your age) it will still be difficult. But from my experience, it is working. I'm on day 68 of no MO currently and it is getting easier and I believe it's working.

Keep it up. Don't give up! You will see the benefit and you won't regret it if you stick to the goal.

 

You're welcome. A few years ago, I saw a post on a forum similar to noFap but it wasn't noFap. I think you had to pay to post.
I remember this post my someone who was much older like 50s or 60s and he was saying how much this stuff has messed up his relationships and been such a problem for so many years.

Anyway, I as I think of that I just want to encourage you to keep it up and quit this stuff now while you are young. You said you are 18 so I'm twice your age. I can tell you without a doubt, if I could have quit this when I was 18 my life would have been much better off.

So I encourage you not to give up.

Back then there where no forums like this and they didn't understand all the effects and addiction potential that P has on the brain. Using this forum to help you reboot is the best thing you can do I think.

I have been making progress in this reboot so I'm really encouraged by that. I think I'm finally going to be able to quit this.

 

*sighs* Lucky you. I'm only 13 days in and I know that the struggle will be real as the days grow ever warmer. If it's not a gal at Starbucks sitting with her back (and smokin' hot yoga pants-clad backside) to me, it's running into an old friend of mine and finding that she looks gorgeous.

I took up this challenge hoping that it'd enable me to start appreciate women less as "hot people" and more as "people", but it'll be tough. Got any tips?

 

PG Tips?

 

Well,

Not really scientifically proven tips, but I try to tell myself that the lady might have had issues, lost a friend, is adopted, maybe she is getting A's at university. You know, humanizing the person, instead of disregarding the human being and looking at her like a sex toy.

I'm not saying that its easy. I'm not saying that I'm going thru this like a walk in the park. Some tops are meant to show cleavage, to show skin. Some clothes are meant to be worn tight, of course that leaves no place for imagination. Ladies buying those clothes try these clothes and buy them, because its nice, because they like it, because it empowers some of them. Good on them. But we are "weak"! I don't know if we should totally make abstraction of that, or pay attention to how they look. It's tempting to look!

Sometimes, I believe we are like big fish that wants to kiss the hook!