Low Libido

Hello All.

I was wondering if having a low libido is a part of the rewiring and rebooting process. Since starting this journey to recovery my urges are next to nil. I have no yearning to look at porn and/or anything of sexual nature.

This can't come at the worst time I have to admit. I started to be more social for the past few months and I have been getting lots of positive vibes and attraction signals from women. Been on a few dates and connected with a couple of the women I went out with. My major problem right now is if we reach the point of being intimate and physical I am afraid that I will not perform due to the problems created by my porn "addiction."

Does anyone here faced this same problem? How did you dealt with this???? The only thing I can think of right now is to just focus on her pleasure and "ignore" mine for the time being until I'm healed.

Thanks for listening.

 

Agree on all fronts. I am not going to lead anyone on. Especially I see a few of them in my bootcamp class don't want to jeopardize things where I have to change my gym. Well there is one particular girl I am into and my focus is mostly on her. I have to definitely take things slow and really get to connect and know her as a person and individual. Well that was my intention anyways. Able to get her number and go on a few dates with her are icing on the cake. Honestly knowing her name and get her to smile were more than enough.

I am on my fourth day and from doing some researching I think I am in my flatlining mode. Wow this sucks personally. Yet socially with women it seems to work great because it was more about conversation and connection/chemistry and not trying to get into her pants like most.

 

I don't have the low energy, depression and headaches because I head to the gym on a consistent basis so that really helps. What irks me right now is having this low libido with absolutely no urges plus the fact that I haven't had a morning wood for quite a while. Just scary. I remember those mornings not long ago where I am so damn hard I couldn't wait to get it down. Damn I miss those days.

This unpredictable period of flatlining is absolutely scary and irritating!

 

Thanks. That is reassuring because having this flatline experience is pretty horrendous!

I knew something was really wrong with a subtle change in the way I was viewing porn. Instead of just sticking to just one scene I keep flipping through scene after scene after different scene to build up the intensity. This also has detrimental affect where it totally wiped out my urges because the intensity that I get from changing scenes.