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Marriage won't cure you

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by St Thomas Becket, Apr 28, 2020.

  1. Apr 28, 2020 #1
    St Thomas Becket

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    In my 20's I had a sizeable "stash". Pictures, stories, magazines, books (that was a thing!), videos hidden in a bookbag in my closet. I lived alone, but I still kept it hidden. When I got married at 28, I (ceremoniously) through the entire collection, bookbag and all, in the dumpster. "No need for that," I thought, "Now I can have the real thing!"

    That worked for a couple of months, if that. My wife found a picture I had forgotten about and I blamed it on a college roommate (Sorry, ***!) When the Internet arrived, I was right back where I started. I was even willing to wait on dial-up speeds to get porn.

    I just want everyone to know that if you're addicted to porn, you're addicted to porn. Not sex. I wish I could stop that idiot I was from thinking that he could just "chuck it all". I needed this site a long time ago. I glad you're all here for me now.
     
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  2. Apr 28, 2020 #2
    mustaphaFTW

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    good luck man am married too it started from porn and led to many other shameful things that am addicted to. let's do this for our selves and for our family
     
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  3. May 6, 2020 #3
    BigDaawg

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    I had many stashes of physical porn from the early 80s onwards. Threw them away, started new ones and yo-yo'd like that until the internet came along and i cld downlaod and save it electronically. I finaĺy realised the damage it was doing to me and my relationship and deleted it all a few months ago. However i continued to still watch it until 16 days ago. Clean now and trying hard. Stay strong brother. Take the support and advice offered on this fab' forum. I too wish that I could go back in time and change what I did. Guess we all feel like that here so you are in exactly the right place.
     
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  4. May 7, 2020 #4
    G0ReadAB00k

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    Wow, thank you for sharing this man. I'm 28 and getting married in October. I started fighting this 16 year addiction about 8 months ago, and its been a bloodbath. I just relapsed after 16 days PMO free, and I'm feeling pretty awful. 16 days is the longest I've gone in months, and the longest I've ever gone has only been 4 weeks.

    My fiancé and I are Christians as well, and in July we will have been abstinent for 1 year, in an effort to start our marriage on the right foot. With that said, adding the PMO fight to the abstinence fight has been its own battle. Last night when I messed up, I kept thinking "I just wish I could just go have sex with my fiancé instead of looking at this and PMOing" but your post reminds me that sex with my fiancé isn't the cure to the problem. Ridding my brain of the dopamine addiction through PMO, by God's grace, is.
     
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  5. May 10, 2020 #5
    Griitings

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    You are very much welcome, and good luck
     
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