I am 28 days no porn. I have fapped 4 times though. My longest streak was 15 days. Im married. Had sex twice in that time. Not very good though. You know the story. Wondered about doing a 90 day reboot, but should that include no sex with the wife? Thoughts?
I don't think it is fair to the wife! No fapping (unless she "faps" you), no porn! Intimacy with your wife is fantastic. My advice about MO: Porn is toxic no doubt about it! It will lead to abnormal sexual desire. You will no longer be aroused by the "normal." MO is a bit more of a debate. I personally am against MO. It is destructive. Prolonged MO leads to decreased penile sensitivity. Further, it can lead to the inability to ejaculate naturally into the vagina. Also, the more you get into masturbation/pornography, the less interested you become in your partner. This can devastate your relationship with your significant other. For me, when life gets hectic, I used to MO for it was more convenient. Unfortunately, it took away my appetite for intimacy with my wife. What a tragedy. Now, I have to go to my wife when I get urges. I will find time no matter how busy. If you don't have a significant other, it is more difficult with regards to MO. Who knows what is the minimum amount of safe MO is? I am sure it varies among different people. I would limit it as much as possible. Ultimately, we are in pursuit of freedom from PMO that highjacks our manhood and lead to intense feelings of shame and defeat. I wish you well on your journey. Stay strong! Win!
I know firsthand that porn use has led to decreased intimacy with my wife. This is why I am quitting, though I am not going to quit being with her. Everyone has different goals. For me, I'm just trying to eliminate all things virtual, PMO. I'm not planning to stop things in real life with my wife though.
