Masturbation is NOT sex. Motivation for quitting

I'm a 39 year old man and over the course of my life, I've discovered that excessive masturbation is destructive to your physical and mental health.

Unfortunately, while this used to be known in the Western world, the current trend in Western medicine says that masturbation is healthy and has numerous benefits.

Whichever point of view you agree with, I would like to point out some basic facts.

1. Masturbation is NOT the same as sex with a female.
- your hand does not feel the same as her pussy and you CAN desensitise yourself such that when you are with a female you may not enjoy how she feels
- your body produces very different hormones and chemicals after sex with a girl than it does after sex with yourself
- the more sex you have with girls, the more you will generate a masculine vibe

Whilst it might be ok to jerk off once a month or so when you are young, it should NOT be thought of as 'practice' for the real event.

2. The more masturbating you do, the less sex you will have.
- imagine you have sex with a girl once a week, every week for ten years. How many sex sessions is that? 520 sessions. Or how about twice a week, every week for ten years? That's 1040 sessions with a real live girl.

I calculated that up to the age of 25, I masturbated somewhere in the region of 4500 times. 4500 Faps on my own versus 1040 sex sessions with a girl/ woman. Which is better?

I used to think I was getting myself ready for the day when I had a relationship. In truth, I was delaying that moment with every single Fap. And not only that but I depleted my body of so much energy that I couldn't maintain relationships once I started having sex with real girls / women.

3, You need the energy that comes from your sex drive to push you to chase girls.
I remember when I was 20, a friend said to me, ''Phil, you're a good looking guy and lots of girls like you. The reason you aren't going with any of them is because you masturbate all the time. You don't have the drive to go after them.''

Never was a truer word said to me. Unfortunately it took another 5 years or so for me to really appreciate what he was saying. And of course in that time, I missed out not only on many girls but also the experience that comes with dealing with girls and hooking up with girls. As well as seriously depleting my body's energy.

4, You need your vital energy if you want to be a father and raise kids
You cannot afford to squander it watching fake women performing on a porn channel.

So, for those who need motivation to stop Fapping and for those of you still in your youth, STOP masturbating NOW and get out there and engage with real girls in the real world. It might take a month, 3 months, 6 months or even a year to hook up with someone but start the process of learning NOW and quit spunking your vital energy into a paper tissue.

 

I completely agree. Good luck with your journey.

 

I completely agree. The next stage seems to be how to teach children how to do it. I think there is a seriously wicked agenda there. I think it's about isolating human beings from each other. I notice that the Guardian newspaper is heavily promoting female masturbation. It might not affect their health as seriously as men but it will make them dissatisfied with the sex they get from men.

I'm fine thank you. On a bit of a mission to try to stop young men making the same mistakes as me.

All the best to you too.