Hey. I'm Murph. This is my thread of all things paramount to making the recovery process go as smoothly as possible while addressing the underlying causes of why one faps to begin with.
K. Gonna be kind of unstructured on the surface but it ain't without a clear direction and purpose I assure you. Not really tryin' to have a discussion just kinda free-flowing with ideas but chime in if you feel compelled to comment on something at anytime by all means. PURPOSE. PASSION. FITNESS. HEALTH. WHO ARE YOU? You need a purpose in life. OR else you're just drifting. Drifters run the biggest risk of relapsing. Purposeful people run the best chance of crushing a reboot and kissing fapping bye for good. You need to be passionate about your purpose. Distress/discomfort & forces that compel you to abandon your purpose once you commit to something deeply are best dealt with by a passionate individual. Someone without passion can have a purpose but may let that purpose get beat up by things outside themselves. STAND UP FOR YOUR PURPOSE. Fitness is a great way to keep your energy levels high, people who make fitness (any kind) a part of their lives have more passion and in turn can stay connected to their purpose through thick and thin much better than an out of shape person who lacks passion can. Being healthy and making nutrition count is crucial to nourish your fitness life. ALSO THE BODY IS THE MIND. Now some people smoke cannabis and use plant compounds to align their body with their mind but ideally you wanna be able to do that without putting substances whether natural or not into your body. This thread will consider people from all walks of life. It's not aimed at any one type of person in particular but rather it's aimed at the masses. Really starting with bare bones basics here as some people don't even take care of themselves and expect to succeed.......it just doesn't work that way. Merry early Xmas btw,
Discipline. I used to be the most undisciplined of persons. I also have been extremely disciplined. Discipline is not a form of punishment. It is one of the most important character traits a successful human being needs regardless of what their purpose in life is. People without self-discipline cannot see a basic 90 day reboot through, although they knock dozens if not hundreds of times on the 90 day door, it does not open. The door only opens for people who incorporate discipline into their daily routine. If someone without discipline makes it to 90 days and beyond, they can be considered a lucky type of individual and their problem is probably more of a little bad habit rather than a true addiction/powerful compulsion. If you have a bad compulsion and can't remember the last time you were clean for 90 days in a row this thread is for you. "Ask yourself constantly, What is the right thing to do?" "Behave toward everyone as if receiving a great guest." "The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large." "It does not matter how slowly you go, as long as you do not stop." ~ Confucius ~ “Self-discipline begins with the mastery of your thoughts. If you don't control what you think, you can't control what you do. Simply, self-discipline enables you to think first and act afterward.” ~ Napolean Hill ~
YA MURPHY! LAYIN' DOWN THE LAWS! Will be on Gremlin patrol for ya buddy. What is it about amazing music to make a reboot go by quicker??
Thank you boys. A little more on purpose before getting into some underlying causes of staying in a cycle of relapse. Oh boy. Dog, felt like death this morning. Like God died inside of me. So glad you're takin' care of the gremlin sitch for me, gives me some room to breathe here and speak what needs to be spoken without having to do crowd control simultaneously.
Ya, just shared this in a thread with the most naive question around here I've seen in a DAMN LONG TIME, no offense but I mean COME ON, Don't run away from triggers As for blockers. Not recommended. Read that as to why. Ain't gonna be another damn remark about blockers other than AdBlock in this thread.
I'm an artsy-fartsy type of man, or boy, not sure what I am yet, hopefully a man, anyways do understand that art, music, and poetry are special to me so don't be bewildered if this thread is randomly spiced up and decorated with such things that may seem meaningless to you, well they mean something to me. Poems of fight, rage and strength. You must be beyond furious at fapping to fully overcome it. Nothing must get in your way of this fight.
You, you’re just a number in this world Programmed from the day of birth You need to find your self worth and live like it’s the last day on earth Let's talk about self-esteem and self worth for a moment. You're not going to get anywhere if you don't begin loving yourself, heck downright liking who you are as a person. Do you smile at yourself in the mirror? Not in an egotistical manner, but rather because you like being you and have a healthy self-esteem. Fapping must stop completely immediately. Everytime you fap your self worth diminishes for various reasons (perhaps we will elaborate on them later but they're not what this post is about) and you are basically killing your self-esteem EVERY SINGLE TIME YOU FAP. ONE STEP CLOSER TO HATING WHO YOU ARE. THIS MUST STOP. THERE IS A DEEP SENSE OF URGENCY BEHIND THIS THREAD. BUT I'M IN NO RUSH WHATSOEVER TO RACE TO THE FINISH. RECOVERY HAPPENS ONE DAY AT A TIME, HELL ONE MOMENT AT A TIME. DON'T LOSE YOURSELF IN THE PRESENT MOMENT TO ANY NEGATIVE STATE OF MIND FOR IF YOU GET SWEPT AWAY BACK INTO THE ADDICTIVE CYCLE YOU MUST BEGIN AGAIN. Beginning again doesn't have to be the worst thing in the world, but with something like this a reset is often starting over from scratch. Your past streaks are NOT CUMULATIVE. UNDERSTAND THAT ONLY YOUR PROGRESS IN THE PRESENT MOMENT IS WHAT COUNTS. By relapsing and suffering defeat we may gain wisdom as to why we keep failing, but don't for a second think you don't lose all your hard-earned progress the moment you go on a binge. STOP THESE THOUGHTS DEAD IN THEIR TRACKS: Now study this well if you think your self-esteem is low: KidsHealth > For Teens > How Can I Improve My Self-Esteem? Listen Self-esteem is made up of the thoughts, feelings, and opinions we have about ourselves. That means self-esteem isn't fixed. It can change, depending on the way we think. Over time, habits of negative thinking about ourselves can lower self-esteem. Make a plan for how to do it. Stick with your plan, and keep track of your progress. Train your inner voice to remind you of what you are accomplishing. For example: "I've been following my plan to exercise every day for 45 minutes. I feel good that I've kept my promise to myself. I know I can keep it up." Take pride in your opinions and ideas. Don't be afraid to voice them. If someone disagrees, it's not a reflection on your worth or your intelligence. That person just sees things differently from you. Accept compliments. When self-esteem is low, it's easy to overlook the good things people say about us. We don't believe it when someone says a nice thing. Instead, we think, "…yeah, but I'm not all that great…" and we brush off the compliment. Instead, let yourself absorb a compliment, appreciate it, and take it seriously. Give sincere compliments, too. Make a contribution. Tutor a classmate who's having trouble, help clean up your neighborhood, participate in a walkathon for a good cause, or volunteer your time in some other way. When you can see that what you do makes a difference, it builds your positive opinion of yourself, and makes you feel good. That's self-esteem. Exercise! Being active and fit helps you feel good about yourself. You'll relieve stress, and be healthier, too! Relax and have fun. Do you ever think stuff like "I'd have more friends if I were more attractive"? Thoughts like these can set you on a path to low self-esteem because they focus on what's not perfect instead of making the best of what is. Spend time with the people you care about, do the things you love, and focus on what's good. That helps you feel good about yourself, just as you are. Reviewed by: D'Arcy Lyness, PhD Date reviewed: April 2015
Nice song Murph! Part II: Just gonna spice this sucker of a thread up with some pics for ya buddy ol' pal, don't mind if I do, a little colour goes a long way for darkness in the mind.........................................
Murphy I'm feelin like the Alpha & Omega ripped through my mind the past few weeks because it wanted to speak through me, us, whatever the fuck happened I am beginning to understand my destiny on this planet. "This visage, no mere veneer of vanity, is a vestige of the vox populi, now vacant, vanished. However, this valorous visitation of a by-gone vexation, stands vivified and has vowed to vanquish these venal and virulent vermin vanguarding vice and vouchsafing the violently vicious and voracious violation of volition."
Music is such a powerful medium. Many people don't truly understand the power of music these days. The experience of truly listening as well as consciously grasping the meaning of lyrics of songs of genuine musical artists (not puppets of record companies producing hits for the mere sake of profiting off the masses) is so much more than mindlessly bopping your head to the radio in the car.
Thx a ton Master Bane! It means so much to me! To hear praise from someone like you soothingly and reassuringly touches the irreversibly deep and invisible wounds inflicted by fapping and pornography upon my vengeance filled mind of unrelenting wrath & retribution.
FEAR OF THE SACRED. Unstructured. Back & forth, back & forth, back & forth. The concepts we will cover will seemingly go around in a directionless maze of incomprehensible patterning but this thread is not without the intention of covering all the DIE-HARD UNCHANGEABLE UNIVERSAL LAWS of lifelong recovery from fapping and porn consumption. PERCEPTIONS OF SEX, WOMEN, MEN, AND RELATIONSHIPS. Your perceptions can make or break your progress. Perception is probably what will be covered most in this thread. A child can recover more fully from fapping and porn viewing than a grown up due to their ability to shift their perception of sexual morals more flexibly than an adult mind. Easy does it now. No rush here whatsoever.
Fight the New Drug Page Liked · September 18 · Edited · "Porn distorts people’s views of real, natural sex. Not watching porn is one of the most sex-positive things you can do. Real love, not porn, is what's actually sexy." Now let me say masturbation is more harmful to oneself neurologically and physiologically than viewing pornography, hands down it will ruin your life more than simply watching porn without jerking sexual energy out of your body into thin air (or God knows what if not inside a partner) will. Except the effects just viewing porn has on those you are watching being paid or coerced or even straight up unwillingly forced into the filming and raped are much more devastating in a different manner than just breaking your mind and body down by wasting vital fluid that could be nourishing every cell in your body and increasing brain power is. Well porn watching will also shrink the grey matter in your brain as well as warp your perceptions of sex, beauty, and most assuredly corrupt all of your innate human virtues if consumption is not ceased entirely before the warping occurs so I suppose it is just as damaging however the loss of your body's most vital fluid is really just life destroying in every meaning of the term. The paramount concepts to be covered will cover a reboot the way it is intended, giving up both porn and masturbation together and separately.
@betre life w/gf "Porn thrives on exploitation and degradation while love thrives on selflessness and trust. <3" This post is dedicated to you my friend. Wish you the best in your journey
Please feel free to quote a typo or grammar error if you come across one. Some of the concepts and ideas I try to express here leave me baffled as to how to word them and I may make a grammar mistake from time to time trying to squeeze them out of my cortex, like using is instead of are perhaps!
Rebooting requires we go to war with our lower nature. However we do not actively seek to attack it. This war does NOT work that way. We are not fighting our sexuality. We ARE NOT REPRESSING OUR SEXUALITIES GET THAT THROUGH YOUR HEAD RIGHT NOW. Some people are not at an existential level to be ready to harness the full power of their sexuality by entirely giving up fondling their own genitals to both transmute the energy to having awesome, amazing lives and to also make their sex lives far better than any masturbator can ever hope to come close to having. So, when the beast calls to you for feeding, that is when we fight. WE TAKE A STAND FOR OUR HIGHER NATURE and people do this differently. The best way to think of fighting the beast is to think in terms of martial arts philosophies. For instance the Way of Aikido would call for a passive deflection perhaps, we simply watch the rising energy (sometimes urges are not so much biological as they are psychological, as a Master once said sexual desire begins in the mind, you must become more sensitive to your emotions and passing mental states) or lustful thoughts and redirect the energy and thinking to other positive outlets which may be different for everyone. REAL MEN TAKE FULL CONTROL OF THEIR DICKS. They are not puppets of their penis. They become the master, while boys remain the slave. Do you want to be the master or the servant of the beast?
