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My first try with a girl after 140 days rebooting

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Huntilt, Jun 16, 2016.

  1. Huntilt

    Huntilt Fapstronaut

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    Hello fellows,

    So yesterday night I ask a girl I met online and previously date once to come at mine to watch the Euro football game and have a sushi date. I haven't been with a girl since at 10 months and was a bit nervous and anxious about going out of my confort circle and about my PIED i had all my life. I was just saying myself "don't worry, it would be a test to know where you are standing too after almost 5 months rebooting of PMO" and "nothing bad will happened".
    She came at mine we watch the game, France win blabla, then we started to kiss on the catch and cuddling, i first feel something below then things started to get warmer until she said she has her period so nothing will happen I said ok no problem i'm happy as it is now. We were still dressed and after intense kissing i felt i was on erection and the worst happened... i came....just by kissing and full cloth. I haven't release since 4 months so i had any pleasure and i wont lie, it happened for well 6 7 seconds . hopefully she didn't notice anything because i still had my denim and she had her leggins but i felt sooo embarassed and i couldnt get any erection after we keep kissing but i was like wtf happened to me, how old am I to came after 1 mn kissing dress.. looks like being in an american pie movie. All my libido came down after that and i didnt want anymore to continue especially because i didnt want she noticed it.

    Is it normal ? What should i do to "fix" it ? and how come i wasn"t excited at all and block me.. If you can share some of your experience after a long abstinence period in a physical way i would be very interested.

    thanks
     
  2. alekniranjan

    alekniranjan Fapstronaut

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    i was on hard mode for around 3 months last year and the first time i had sex i came immediately did not feel anything and it was a flat line. but luckily i did not revert to fap at that point and then sex happened after 15 days or so and it was the best i ever had. i felt very fulfilled and there was no death grip sensation--there was spontaneous ejac and it was very good. i suggest u keep to nofap and next time it will be very good. i think the girl would have felt u presence as more masculine than if u were fapping..it is the super powers they talk about!!!
    hope it helps
     
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  3. Drew86

    Drew86 New Fapstronaut

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    I'm very interested in the responses too as I'm a newbie. I'm in hard mode for almost 2 weeks, and is my first time with a girl going to be embarrassing? Should I make sure it's not with a girl who I would want a relationship with, just to get the first one out of the way so to speak?

    Thanks-drew
     
  4. rave756

    rave756 Fapstronaut

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    Wow, tough experience with the pressure to impress a new girl. I can tell you the mistake i made in that situation were when i finished quickly, to end the sex immediately. Keep going with foreplay or making sure she is satisfied. That's what will bring her back. Same thing with the PIED, if that's where you're at, just reassure her that its OK if you don't have an erection, that you still want to be with her.

    To the later commenters, it would probably be more comfortable if you were in a relationship. The right girl might either see a PE as a compliment, and/or be understanding and want to help you figure out what it takes to last longer. Good luck!
     
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