I need to get my life back. Been spending too much time on sites like fetlife, which are thrilling and get me off. But tomorrow I want to be a porn-free day. Suggestions appreciated.
This. Goals are pointless. Read as much information as you can about the negatives porn has on different areas of life and especially about the withdrawal symptoms. You will face these when you begin nofap and the voices in your head will constantly give you reasons why you should return to porn. With knowledge beforehand, you will be prepared for this and hopefully defeat the battle with your brain. The only way is to begin nofap and from there take it one day at a time. It is hard as hell and the willpower will be tested.
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All I can think of that sorta works is what in the real world is happening while I'm stuck in the fake porn world
You need that realization in order to have a strong incitament to change your life situation. You will feel worse at times when quitting porn addiction because now you have no complement. That is a good thing, you need that drive to change things and get out there in this ''scary'' world and approach real people and make change happen. Porn has made me careless for relationships and numb to feelings. I have always picked porn before real women and ditched relationships. Even though all science points in the direction that relationships are one of the most important aspects in your life to create a meaningful life and happiness. Just an example. We should not be privileged to always feel optimal when we have not taken the actions to earn that. This is not just about getting laid and getting girls, this could be applicable to other things also.