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sundaycoleson

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So I'm a 20-something gay male who has for a while had the feeling that my masturbation habits might be counter-productive to my goals in life - when I have free time that could be used to be creative, I fail to do that. When I am busy and have a lot to do, I use it to procrastinate. And before going to bed and when I wake up, I often find myself wasting my time doing that with often no real benefit. In terms of porn, I don't consume an extreme amount or anything extreme but it's still becoming an unwelcome distraction in my life. I don't know if I have a problem, if this is healthy behavior, if it is normal and if i should or shouldn't be complacent with being normal...but my main thing is, if i didn't have sex and masturbation on my mind constantly (and taking up my time) I could probably be more successful at my goals in terms of both career and personal. I'll be honest, I also have no real idea how this site works and after navigating it I still don't understand how it will actually help me and how I'm supposed to use it - I also have no experience in using internet forums and find them confusing. But at this point, I'd like to commit myself to changing...even if it's not a huge problem for me, which also...I guess it could be? And I guess that's another reason I am here - to work out if it's actually a problem or not and what I want to do. This is all an incoherent rant, but sometimes putting my thoughts down in words is the easiest way to make sense of them...and well, I guess putting them out there on this site is a way of committing myself to something. Here goes nothing.
 
We're in this together brother. I felt the same too when I started here. I started reading people's journal and I kinda figured out how things work. I think the bottom line hear is to breath in (reading people's thought and journal) and breath out (writing our own's). I've been writing my journal daily for these past 86 days. You might find some tips there.
 
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