I relapsed after getting to 12 days. Now I don't feel the strong need to fight this anymore. It takes a whole lot of fight to stop. I don't plan on getting married anytime soon being only 16. I am a Christian but I'm just not sure if MO with out P is that bad anymore. I could use some help.
MO without P is bad since you're misusing the energy God gave you that could be otherwise used for something better than self-satisfaction . As for not feeling the strong need to stop anymore , you can always read how it's bad for you . But for me , willpower just comes and goes all the time . It will come back but you just need to push through these days . I hope this helped .
It's bad, I'm 22 now and I wish I was your age again there's so many things I would have done differently. Now it doesn't matter if your MO'ing without porn, one way or another it will lead down a slippery slope. You miss out on relationships, you are less dominant, you become less socialised. Basically, you miss out on life. Don't be deluded into thinking any different. You've got your whole life ahead of you. I wish someone had sat me down and had this talk at 16 and I wouldn't haven't wasted so many years.
I had a similar excuse. I started in college when I was single, the catch is that it becomes a habit; a habit that is not easily broken. I'm married now and am battling this (for me it wasn't a switch that I could turn off). I imagine that it would be a lot easier to break the habitat if I didn't have years of doing it. My advice for what it is worth is to stop now. Considering that you are not addicted to the P you are already ahead.
I am an atheist, so I can't comment on the Christian aspect. Theoretically, there's nothing wrong with occasional fapping or porn; it's like any other waste of time like playing video games. However, for many on this site, it has become a compulsion that we can't control. Plenty of men and women go through life occasionally masturbating and it's no big deal. If you're one of them, fine. I'm not; if I have even a little bit, I go off the deep end. If quitting is a challenge, that's a clue that you might have a problem that you should explore. But even if you're not an addict, think about it this way: you have nothing to gain from fapping. It's just a waste of time, and you could be out experiencing life instead of jerking off in front of a computer screen. Live the life you want to life, and live a life you're proud of. If you're proud of jerking off in your room by yourself, then by all means do it. But I can't imagine anyone would be proud of that.
The general consensus in society and according to professionals, is that occasional masturbation is perfectly fine. But like the other guy said, people here are in another league of damaging behavior. Nobody can tell you what to do but my personal opinion if you're not heavily addicted to porn, the occasional wank won't hurt you. I would avoid porn all together tho. Don't delay your ejaculation too long and try and think about real girls as much as possible. That's all I would say.
23M, the advantages of killing this thing at 16 are exponentially higher than at a later age - if you go to college with no PMO habits, you'll have a totally different experience than some of the other folks here.
Yea if I could do it over, I would never have watched a single porno in the first place. I'm 26 almost 27 now.
Yep. The issues that lead us here are a little deeper than just MO'ing a few times a week. If I could go back I would have never started watching porn, honestly.
When I was 16 I didn't have the high speed internet that you have now. There's just too much stimulation going on and it's not healthy. It's giving a lot of guys PIED (porn induced erectile dysfunction) which isn't good. I have PIED but I didn't experience high speed PMO until 5-6 years ago. Everyone seems to be becoming less and less social and trading a real experience for a digital one. I have to tell you since starting NoFap that everything is a lot more stimulating and exciting. I look forward to each day and I can connect with people a lot easier. Watching porn will make me want to isolate myself and also make me spiral in to a depression. As hard as it's been at times, I know how great recovering is and I feel really good about my recovery. I know how bad I feel when I'm addicted and giving in to my addictions. I feel like I've taken back control of my life. I'm proud of who I am now and am learning to love myself instead of being embarrassed and ashamed about who I am or what I was doing. It feels good doing the right thing.
Thanks guys, it great to know people that actually care about my predicament. I suppose obedience to God is NOT optional, even if it's a "small" thing. I realize that now. Not too long after writing this original post I went straight from MO to watching P seamlessly. I am not addicted to porn but the urge to fap can lead to me want the most stimulating experience(PMO). Riding the fence between what may be harmless and full on objectification and adultery is not acceptable. Sometimes God calls people to man-up. Not trying to sound like a religious freak or anything, it's just how I see it now. Thanks NoFap! I think I'm ready to fight back again!
Lol I really am not addicted to porn, I'm addicted to MO. I've went months with no porn but Ming every day. Fantasies (with great imagination comes great responsibility!) are most often my substitute for actual P because all the real P is too hardcore for me. otherwise I'd draw my "perfect porn" myself. I've been into MO for 4 years but was extremely careful to never get caught with P (imagine what that would be like, a 12-year-old with porn) so I only rarely looked at it (about 1-3 times a month).
