No orgasm resulting in endless resets

Hey guys I been on this journey a year or two and I’m still having difficulties the lastest reason for the reset is when I have sex I can’t cum I lose a lil staying power but I’m still erect and the lust is just not there so I ended up pmo to orgasm will this feeling of no lust while having intercourse and not orgasm be healed. My girl feels like I don’t want her but I do she feels like we just fucking to fuck