Does successfully achieving nofap, help with the feeling of loneliness, or does it get stronger, anyone who experienced this? (I only saw posts of ppl reporting feeling lonely during the challenge, not after) This would ve my main motivater to complete nofap. If it would reduce my craving for human contact My problem is that i cant handle being lonely, and i have the feeling that this is largely bc of sex drive.
It has made me less lonely overall, but there's a few things I did alongside NoFap. 1. Exercise every day 2. NO social media or YouTube 3. No "attention seeking" behavior. I stopped chasing women. I would always give any woman 75% of the attention she gave me. Girls started flirting with me for the first time.
I don't know what you mean by "achieving" but if it's just the standard day count of 90, I'd say that doesn't necessarily tell you one way or the other. Someone can simply have enough willpower but never address the psychological need or neediness, which are two different things too. People really need to stop looking at the single variable of rebooting, it doesn't matter how many people you see do it. I won't say whether it can help or not because it encourages this reductionistic way of thinking because it's not that simple. That's like "can getting a bigger hard drive help build a computer". That's one part of it, but if you ignore all the other stuff you will have no computer, you will only have that part. When it comes to loneliness, there's at least loneliness in terms of romantic interest and just general friendship. It seems like a lot of guys would pretty much focus on being single and completely ignore the other kind of loneliness. All I can say is good luck, because I don't think that will get you very far. Not to be negative but it's just not realistic.
Nofap has little to do with loneliness. The reason Nofap is connected to loneliness is because a PMO addict chooses to spend time viewing porn instead of connecting with real people. The only way to cure loneliness is by meeting people. If you are not meeting people you will still be lonely regardless of what else you do.
Before starting NoFap, I didn't have trouble making myself meet new people. My friends have described me as extremely extroverted. NoFap made it easier to deal with rejection, for some reason.
I'm not finding much substance in this thread, but maybe one reason someone would feel less lonely after competing Nofap is because they may have more confidence now that they have completed a difficult challenge. They may feel better about themselves in general after completing Nofap. Confidence might add a boost to a persons self-esteem and loneliness may be amplified when ones self-esteem is low. I have no idea if there is a connection between the two, but I would say meeting more people is the best way to cure loneliness.
Yes, so that's one variable in a more complex social process that involves the persons particular personality and their environment. There's not a whole lot to talk about if we always only focus on no PMO and a single feeling like loneliness without further distinctions.
True, I like that there is a forum on loneliness, because many of us that PMO may also be lonely, but I don't think the connection between the two is strongly related. I do feel that when we are lonely, PMO is a temporary distraction that makes us feel good both physically and mentally for a brief moment and then PMO takes over and makes us feel like crap. As I have learned, PMO is a symptom of other issues in our life, it's not usually the cause of our problems. Most of us use PMO to run to for relief of what is really our problems. Good luck in your journey for a better life. Nomo
NoFap is not a Tool to conquer Loneliness. Look at me now. I have reached almost 5 Months and I still struggle. But with understanding it will get better little by little. You are doing NoFap because you don't want to depend your Mind on sexual Desire all the Time. Because if you do, you will feel really bad after you have fapped. It ruins your Life. And you know that! At some Point you dont want to be trapped in a viscious Cycle once every week. You don't want to see naked Human Body as something which you gonna value the most. In Reality you want to experience Honesty and Understanding. Look inside not outside of someone! The outer shell of any human being is not giving you any worth....it is a big Lie. Dont fall into this Temptation because it is an Illusion to think that true Beauty only comes from outside. I do believe that we can end Loneliness by doing Meditation. I am practicing Transcendental Meditation recently again after 1.5 years of making a break. And I have Hope again that I will lead a happier Life once again.
