Hey guys, I went one month nofap (my first ever attempt after reading YBOP) until relapse yesterday.... It cured my PIED which I had previously suffered from intermittently however I did find some problems: -I'm an asshole to my girlfriend. I can't be bothered with her conversation, I can't be bothered doing things for her. I'm much less affectionate and I'm constantly starting to question wether I want to be with her anymore. If she doesn't want to fuck one night then I get really moody with her next day because I can't sleep well unless I come at night. -I'm an asshole at work. I hate everyone and everything annoys me. -I'm an asshole to my friends. -I still have very little motivation to do anything. I'm still lethargic as fuck, but now it comes with a bad mood too. Maybe I just need to go longer next time to let my hormones go back to a more acceptable level. Maybe I'm really just a complete asshole but my mastubation has been masking it all these years? I guess we will find out in the next few months! I'm definitely feeling more alpha and angry all the time. Was always assertive, now I'm out of line. If anyone can explain this shit and give me some coping mechanisms that would be fucking awesome. Thanks!
Just to say I'm 29 and me and my gf have been living together for a year. Iv had quite a few long term relationships before and never been such an ass to any of them as I'm being to this girl now.
I find when I'm acting up a lot with porn I'm very cranky, snappy and more detached. I find it makes me less affectionate and a total sex maniac. It's worth trying for a few months to see how it affects you porn free.
Most guys say that. I've kinda went the opposite way which is strange. Maybe just fighting the addiction taking its toll. Going to try
Not surprising that you're feeling and acting a bit off. Abstaining from PMO completely after overindulging in it for years is bound to knock your chemistry out of whack. Get back on the path after your relapse and try to be mindful of your mood changes. Talk to your girlfriend about it if you can. It will get better.
You need to realize your girl might not want to sleep with you sometimes because you're being an asshole. When my boyfriend is being an asshole I wouldn't touch him with a 50 foot pole. Hnn. You have to remember if you're girlfriend were to act like a complete bitch would you want to talk to her? Nope. Try finding the root to your anger, is it work, school, something pmo related? You should talk to her and you need to be more empathetic. I'm going through a rough patch and he's been not so nice and it has me questioning our relationship. Communication is key!!!! Good luck, stay strong!!!
I'm having this same thing going on right now! I'm being an asshole even though I don't want to be, questioning whether I want to be with my girlfriend anymore and I'm way more sex crazy than I was before I had this run. I'm having the worst cheating thoughts the whole time even though I love her. I guess there is more to this addiction than I thought. Even after more than 2 years in recovery I'm still learning. Even though I am not actively viewing porn, I guess the porn side of my brain is craving really porny sex and because of the nature of porn and viewing so many different women I'm craving other sexual relationships too which makes me feel like such a dick. I know I would never cheat on my girlfriend but because I'm conflicted it's making me question whether we should be together. Is it the chicken or the egg? Am I feeling this way because I don't love her anymore or am I feeling this way because of porn?
PMO is a stress remover and an escape from the things that bug us. Now that you don't have the escape of PMO you are acting out because you are stressed with new emotions and feelings. The whole point of this journey is not to just stop PMO, but to find new ways to deal with the reason we are addicted to PMO in the first place. This is true for all addicts, we use our addiction to escape. I'm hoping to become a better man. If I'm stressing, I will work-out, read, clean, do anything but PMO. The real deal is to change something and probably lots of things about our selves and how we deal with the real world. Good luck, stay strong.
