Hey folks, first time posting on this. Hope this belongs here. My girlfriend dumped me in April, after 2 years. She said she did not feel enough love anymore, which took be me by surprise to be honest. Yes, we had our ups und downs, like every couple does, but I didn't think that it had her feeling this insecure about our relationship. I always assumed we were both happy... Well, typical case of "not enough communication". Fast forward to about 2 weeks ago. At that time, I thought I was ready for another girl. (Spoiler: I really was not) So, I matched this girl on a dating app and went to meet up with here quite quickly. We were really hitting it off, the date went awesome. She was smart, funny, good-looking - the whole deal. And the best thing: She seemed to like me aswell! Second date also went great. We were cooking at her place. At the end of the night, she kissed me. Felt wonderful! This went on for about a week. I slept at her place about 3 times during this time - we did not have sex, though. In the end, she confessed to me that this whole thing was a bit too much for her, too fast (although she was the one to initiate the kiss and to suggest me sleeping over). In fact, she also was dumped recently. We both agreed that we were not yet ready for another relationship, craving the love and affection of our former partners. This could not be a healthy foundation. Now I'm thinking that maybe noFap can help me focus on learning to love myself again. Before being able to love someone else again, that is. I've spent the majority of my life having a girlfriend. I have not been single for more than half a year since I was 16. Sorry for the long post and my rusty English. Have a great day, everyone!