On my way to my second counseling appointment.

I got lucky right away . . . I knew exactly what I wanted. I never could have gone to a woman. Fuck no. I'm not describing the intimate details of my masturbatory fantasies with a woman. I'd like the guy perspective. Although I'm completely comfortable with women in every other setting, and I have a wife and 3 daughters. I think you can tell rapport probably in the first 2 or 3 sessions. If they are opening you up. rather than making you defensive or "probing" for more detail than you are comfortable giving. You'll know because you'll feel like you're really doing work together. You're collaborating, building, like any good close partnership. You're going someplace together.