Once an addict, always an addict ?

Totally agree.

I put in my head from day 1 that i will always be an addict, so i will never be allowed to lower my guard.
I know for sure that if i start watching it again it will be the same, and even worst, than before.

 

It is definitely an addiction that needs to be given the care and attention that any recovering addict gives himself during the process. I've learnt it the hard way that 94 days wasn't enough for my "reboot". Certain mental patterns and triggers have presented themselves to me, ones that I am much more aware of now than when I was stuck in a PMO trance. 90 days is a good start for anyone looking to give up the habit, I agree that the end goal should be to live a life completely free from P as it doesn't reflect what true intimacy feels like. Though we can be genetically predisposed to addiction (I feel we can't use it as an excuse or justification for what we have done in the past), once we realise we have a problem it is up to us to take the appropriate actions to mitigate the negative effects of the addictive behaviour that has had a grasp on us from whatever age. We can indeed rewire our brains, science has proven that our brains are much more plastic than we have previously known it to be. It takes time is all. Patience and persistence.

Being part of the first generation to have access to the internet for pornographic material also doesn't help, especially because there were no cases like ours before the advent of such technology. Just like any useful technology, it can be used for good or bad. It's not anybody's fault that the right technology presented us at the right time to develop a bad bad habit. Our parents' generation never had to face issues like these, hence the awareness of the issue was not passed on to our generation.

Simply put, sex sells. When you do notice those suggestive themes wherever you see them, know that they are only trying to "sell" you something. I feel having that awareness reduces the chances of one falling into their trap, just by knowing that it is something that is manufactured and not representative of real life. Just remember, your intention to abstain is much stronger than their intention to sell you on sex. You can overcome anything you put your mind to!