One Year Complete

"Addiction is a disease of isolation. Therefore sobriety isn't just an absence of PMO it is connection with others." -Gabor Mate

So, first of all I want to share the basic things I did that helped me get this long streak.

This whole list is a lot to do all at once if you aren't doing at least 5 of them already. But, do not despair, just take the points you feel are relevant and add those to your life one at a time.

1. I looked at people's accounts who had more time than me and read through their journals.

2. I posted on here almost everyday and a whole lot if I was struggling with PMO.

3. Just don't touch the organ. I generally don't touch it except for bathroom or cleaning.

4. Figure out how much exposure to sexual content you can comfortably handle and don't cross that line. For me that means I don't watch porn.

5. I exercise 4 days a week and the 3 rest days I try to walk stretch and or foam roll.

6. I eat healthy and drink plenty of water. It really helps improve energy and willpower.

7. I found hobbies and at least one good person to connect with.

8. I did my best to further my career.

9. I do spiritual practice daily: started with mindfulness, added prayer and scripture.

10. I kind of go with the flow and don't worry so much. I see a therapist and do CBT worry worksheets.

11. I watch anime or nap before 3pm for my leisure activities. What are yours? Do them often

12. Sleep in a cool environment if able in whatever’s most comfortable and least likely for fapping for you. For me it was less clothes but probably different for everyone.


So that's about the eleven things I do that can more or less be generalize to work for anyone. IE: spiritual practice for you could mean practicing your religion, doing visualization of having a good day every day or even watching golf. Whatever soothes your soul.

As many of you know this is my sobriety hat trick. Meaning I've completed over a year of sobriety from substances, video games and PMO. Don't beat yourself up over relapses or whatever, no streaks perfect. Just keep it going is my best advice. Do the things that are helpful for you and don't do the things that aren't. Recovery is simple and easy when you do these things.

I basically promised myself that when I hit a year on here I'd allow myself to stay or go as I please. Essentially I'm free from sobriety cliques. Lol. I don't have to be here anymore after this post and one on my journal linking to it. Strangely I don't feel like flying the coop today. I did when I hit one year in AA and one year on gamequitters.com. But, maybe I just feel like there isn't another frontier to conquer or pursue for me sobriety wise. It's done. Like all that's left is to maintain it.

Feels weird. I guess this is what it feels like when you reach a level on an exercise and all you can do is maintain it. Because going up more weight or reps will be too inefficient for your time, energy and health. That's why I'm training to maintain at about 30 push ups or 185lbs x 3 x5 bench press. It feels a little boring right now. But, I'm sure it'll feel safe and peaceful soon enough. Very calming to know that you're kind of just resting at the top of your game. Sure people have longer streaks and much bigger benches than me. But, it's fine haha I don't mind really. So long as I can maintain good health and fitness I'm happy.

I have the life I wanted:

1. Good job
2. Good partner
3. Good health and fitness
4. Relationship with my family
5. Still working on finding a few good friends S2 Wish me luck I need it!



So hopefully by 500 days I'll have a few good friends and I can go ahead and check off my 5 point life list. Hehe.


Ommmmm I dunno if you have a question to help you on your journey you can ask I dunno how helpful my answers are. But I can try.


One more thing: Thanks for all your love and support on these forums and on the PMO recovery video calls. You were and are all invaluable resources for recovery. Sending you love and support right back

 

Awe thanks so much for your praise. I’m kinda bonding more with guys lately over working out. I just meet them at meetups ask to train then get food and chat after. Some men are actually really sensitive and in touch with their feelings. It can good times. I wish you good luck finding some friends. I’m making progress but not perfection

 

Nice statistic I’ll keep that in mind

 

Yea totally, work and school makes fast friends due to the prolonged exposure effect. I can see how a good fit with someone will make for faster friends as well. Because it feels like you know each other already. I chatted with people at the gym today! Yes! lol. That was so awesome to actually socialize with people in person. I'm stoked to be talking to and meeting potential friends

Hows your social journey going friend?

 

Awe man your post is the truth! WE OUT HERE BABY (^_^)! Good stuff with the clubs and pickle ball. You're totally on the asking to hangout step. That's good stuff man. I went to this anime group through meetup.com and they just started asking each other for numbers and setting up a ramen hang for this Saturday so I'm gonna hang with a small crew tomorrow for that I think. Also I met a guy at a UFC meetup and we just chatted about Calisthenics and life for hours while watching fights. Gotta hit him up too. Just staying consistent and being willing to be the one to like ask to hangout is where I'm at.

You got this. The best friendships for us will blossom and we'll put in the happy work to make it happen hehe

 

Key points

I read the book "Brahmacharya" by Swami Sivananda through twice
I went to the nofap video call group and participated for about 9 months
I messaged and read the journal of someone with a year+ streak
I posted here almost daily

 

Hey thanks a lot for your praise. I'm glad I found this site and I feel like it keeps me going as much as I keep it going

 

They're gone now

They were called 'ModernMilarepa'

He got banned for being a jerk to everyone or something. Which he kind was. But, he also had some good advice for nofap

 

LMK when you finished reading Brahmacharya and Zen Mind Beginners Mind