I have had PIED w/ 3 girls. What's weird is that one of them just messaged me, I need advice. I don't really ask for girl advice on here but if anybody has particular experience and/or general advice let me know. Out of these 3 girls, i talked to them a little and went on a few dates with the last one. I only met this particular girl once and we really hit it off (besides my pied). I trust her to some extent (vs most girls I met), and she made me feel good about myself. We got to know each other. She doesn't know about my pied (same w/ everybody in my real life), she thinks it was bc I did alot of cocaine before hooking up with her (which i did). She messages me just saying hello 5-6 months later by text. I'm home from college and shes still there. I tell her I'm coming back next semester and she goes "Whats going to happen next semester? ", I said "We're hanging out, without drugs lmao." Assuming she wants to fuck. She goes "What took you so long?" I haven't talked to this woman in 6 months and what do i say to that? Nothing really. It was awkward after that first meetup with my pied and all. Plus i have mild depression and severe social anxiety, especially before. These other girls i talked to didn't do much of anything for me bc i didn't trust them. I want a significant other who I can trust, These girls are all cute and sexual (which ive like in girls, even before porn, bc im a sexual person). But I didn't trust them in a way to start dating them. Sometimes i hate being the "nice guy." I look like a typical "bad boy" type of person but I'm not really. I want a romantic type relationship. Perhaps bc I'm lonely or shy and thats why. But bc i was lonely i figured just get and be with anybody, but the last girl i really went on dates with and whatnot, but i really just didnt trust her/like her personality that much. I liked this girl who messaged me though, but her texts are a little strange. Maybe she's drunk? Maybe I'm really tired and I'm always over-thinking.
If you are after a long term romantic partnership, it might be better to establish an emotional bond before jumping into bed with someone. So go on some dates, meet up for lunch, go on a day out together etc. You will also feel more relaxed in bed if you have established a trust relationship first. Relationships are hard though, sometimes you can do everything 'right' and they still don't work out. Don't give up, it's worth it in the end!
Totally agree with the above advice. Also, if she seems like the real deal, I would encourage you to be at least somewhat honest with her about why you didn't contact her or anything. You don't have to tell her everything, but why not at least say that you were embarrassed about the last encounter you had? That's authentic, and despite popular opiniom among men for some reason, most girls like authentic guys. In general, most people like other people who seem real and truly themsleves. I would recommend maybe letting down some of those walls if you're really into this girl.
First, I suggest you quitting cocaine. Second, I suggest you quitting cocaine, as well as all other drugs, including alcohol. If you ask me how, search online for Narcotics Anonymous. Third, I cannot read minds, so I can't tell why this girl texted you. I suppose you can't read her mind too, so you better ask her if you're really curious.
