Peter Pan Syndrome - I dont look forward for my future life, I dont actually want to continue living

Here's a video. Maybe you'll find something inspirational in it. Maybe not.

 

I struggle with symptoms of this syndrome at times. Interesting I didn't know what it was called until now!

 

Hey man. As a 27 year old dude who has been there and done that (both the masters degree and the whole 'I don't want to pursue a career like people think I'm supposed to' thing), let me give you some advice.

1. Don't worry about not feeling ready to start pursuing a career. It's totally fine. You need to relax, take your time, and think about what it is you want to do. That is normal. I know it's hard, though. Unfortunately, we live in a world where pursuing a 'career' is what supposedly makes us worthy, real people. But that is all crap. Old fashioned crap. It's a hangover from our parents' generation, who had that drilled into them by the generation before. Your job doesn't make you who you are.

2. Don't freak out about not knowing what you're going to do after your masters degree. After I completed my masters, I had no idea what the hell I should do. At first, that really freaked me out, so much so that I got into a pretty dark hole of depression (and consequently increased my porn use dramatically). I was in a situation where I was working all day everyday applying for jobs I didn't even want, but somehow thought that I should still go for, as that was what was expected of me. It was a bad time in my life, and it got so bad that I eventually realised I had to seek help both for my mental health and for my porn use (so in that sense, I am grateful for it). But what I am trying to say is that truly do not stress about it, because stressing about it will just make you depressed, and that would be a very sad way to spend your mid 20s, which should be the best, funnest, most exciting time in your life!

3. Focus on the things that give you pleasure, joy and satisfaction in life - whatever they may be. (Porn doesn't count lol. That is fake pleasure and fake satisfaction, as I'm sure we all know). But importantly, you need to actively pursue these things. You definitely don't want to be the guy who lives on UBI eating supermarket pizzas until he is 80 and dying - not because UBI is bad (it isn't) but because ultimately the things that give us joy in life are things that allow us to interact with the world in some way - to be part of the world. You need to find ways to reconnect with the world, with the things you enjoy and love. It sounds to me like you're depressed, and when depressed people get into a hole it can be very difficult to climb back out. But you need to force yourself to do it. This can start with super small things, like going for a walk in the afternoon, or calling a friend. Reach out to people. It works.