Porn addiction making me hate sex in general?

[Avenger21]

My first real post in awhile, I've been dealing with porn addiction for a good time and even though I gotten better at handling it, there's still bumps in the road for me, recently I messed up again and this time I plan on going for a year at the minimum.

For awhile witnessing my addiction to porn and things sex related, it's making me numb and hateful to the concept of sex, which makes me wanting to get away from that type of world. I don't know if I'm the only one to feel that way though, especially being affected by porn escalation by itself.

 

[StayClean&Proactive]

You've gotta differentiate the line between pornography and normal healthy sex.

 

[Longtime27]

Hi @Avenger21 - I think there are some things to think about here:

1. Sex addiction is also a thing. Sex can be a drug the same way that porn can. For some people, sex and porn addiction will go hand-in-hand. For others, could be one or the other.

2. Humans have sex for pleasure (other than to reproduce). However there is no rule saying that you have to have it! Abstinence and chastity are concepts practiced by countless people the world over. It's true on the balance that a normal healthy relationship between two people usually requires healthy sex as part of that, but not always the case. It perhaps depends on what your goals are for relationships now/ in the future?

I do understand you and have felt a 'dislike' of sex (I ended up with porn induced fetishes that are far removed from sex, so sex became hard work for me, or was used as a coping strategy to make me feel better). However i do believe (given enough time), the mind can go back to appreciating it, if you have or find a partner that you really click with.

However, if you feel like sex causes you anxiety and/or leads you to do other negative things, than maybe a period of focusing on self improvement and forget about sex would be a good thing, and see what happens?? Best of luck with figuring it out!