1. Welcome to NoFap! We have disabled new forum accounts from being registered for the time being. In the meantime, you can join our weekly accountability groups.
    Dismiss Notice

Porn star doesnt like it.

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Beloved98, Feb 20, 2020.

  1. Good men still exist! They may be rare but they’re around
     
  2. Nucleus

    Nucleus Fapstronaut

    234
    314
    63
    True.

    It’s a real shame Christianity has been so pushed out of society. Even as a kid (I’m 48 now) the going trend was to bash Christianity. Oh and the utter arrogance: Non believers utterly sneering at believers with the likes of Christopher Hitchens “Hitch slapping” Christians... and then look how they roll around in their own egos like a pig in... mud.

    And look what has happened to us humans without Christianity. Porn addiction for a start.

    “I don’t need any religious book to tell me how to live my life

    That was me.

    Many years later after sex addiction, dating a stripper, picking up women willy nilly, porn and non-stop unfaithfulness to my army of partners... maybe God would have done me the world of good.

    But nooooooo. I knew better.

    Nietzsche warned us that this would happen.

    I hope the current attitude of ego arrogance comes to an end. I hope more people look to God.
     
  3. Beloved98

    Beloved98 Fapstronaut

    61
    94
    18
    Glory to God and congratulations on the progress bro. The pursuit for virtue is honorable, but I'd like to charge you to consider the need for complete deliverance and repentance before marriage. Everyday of my life since my husband confessed has been a nightmare....for myself and children.

    I find pmo a peculiar sexual sin as marriage does not cure it as some might consider 1 Corinthians 7:9 suggests.

    I see it, yes as sexual immorality, but most importantly Idolatry. So marriage cannot bear the weigh of this lust, because it is the worship of the created thing, not a need able to be met and fulfilled by a wife.

    After reading these articles I believe the most humbling place a man can bring himself is to wake each day and confess, "today could be the day I stumble, and I don't want that." Instead of "I'm never doing that again"...the self deception I see in my husband and others is so real. Staying close to Jesus is our only hope.

    God is the only one that can tear down our idols, and replace our seared conscience with new sensitivity to love His law knowing without His grace we are doomed, and it would be justice to leave us to the wages of our sin.

    I hope your strength is renewed daily to walk in His strength! God bless
     
    goodnice 2.0 likes this.
  4. Beloved98

    Beloved98 Fapstronaut

    61
    94
    18
    I'm going to have to lovingly disagree brother.

    The bible says,
    "All have turned away,
    they have together become worthless;
    there is no one who does good,
    not even one.”(Romans3:12)

    The only good man died on a cross for wretched vile sinners like you and me.

    That's the glorious good news of the gospel, that Christ has made propitiation for us, that we might believe and receive His Holy Spirit who gives us the power to be conformed to His image!

    He is SOOO good!!!

    "I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my flesh; for I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do. Instead, I keep on doing the evil I do not want to do. And if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.So this is the principle I have discovered: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me(18-21). . .------>What a wretched man I am!<-----WHO will rescue me from this body of DEATH? ---->Thanks be to GOD, through Jesus Christ our Lord!<----(Romans7:8-21,25)

    Amen, there is victory in Christ! If you haven't heard of him, I'd recommend you look into some Paul Washer sermons.
     
    goodnice 2.0 likes this.
  5. Thank you for this. Humans who try to go their own way thinking they know better than God will inevitably suffer, and learn the hard way
     
  6. I have totally been delivered and completely repented and i am walking with God daily. I know how it can affect relationships after reading many stories here and i am going to completely avoid pmo forever and be sure that by the time i marry pmo is an ancient relic.

    I know marriage won’t cure pmo issues, that’s why i’m curing myself first then marriage
     
  7. I get everything you’re saying. I meant good men in the sense of this: men who seek righteousness and long to live for Christ and have kicked the pmo out of their lives
     
    Beloved98 likes this.
  8. Beloved98

    Beloved98 Fapstronaut

    61
    94
    18
    Gotcha! My husband deceived himself into thinking marriage would remove his desire. He put me on a pedestal until reality of married life and children and financial stress disappointed his fantasy.

    He was a strong professed Christian...never kicking the habit longer than 30days I believe. When he confessed, he also confessed that he never believed he was regenerated to have the desire to really stop. All of this stunned me. He struggles with so much and sometimes I still don't know if he's truly converted by the blasphemy and anger that comes from him, but I'm trusting God will work out true conversion in Him. Please pray for him.

    I thank God you came to this conclusion before rushing to seek a wife. It will be the best gift you can give her. You can't even know the pain you are protecting your future spouse and children from.

    God bless!
     
    need4realchg and goodnice 2.0 like this.
  9. Prayers given! It sounds like he isn’t truly converted because God says you will know them by their fruits.

    Get him the book “Driven By Eternity” by john bevere. Totally changed my perspective and my life. Once he reads that book, i guarantee he will change
     
  10. great testimony friend.
    I hope to read more about your journey.

    blessings.
     
  11. Look up Britni De La Mora. She a good woman and God has blessed her. She is literally the ONLY successful survivor to have come out of porn.

    Shyla Stylez, Billy Glide, Savannah Gold, etc all perished alone because of their addictions and personal demons. Britni was about to end her life when she heard a voice tell her to put it down. She threw away her drugs and started reading the bible. She later was on a plane flight and her gut told her to get off and go home. She did and never looked back. All she ever wanted was to be LOVED and she got trapped in porn trying to find it. Thank God she is now blessed with a husband, daughter and is leading the fight against Porn.

    Her story is amazing and she's surpassed everything she's ever wanted.
     
  12. hubbawulf1234

    hubbawulf1234 Fapstronaut

    286
    310
    63
    !!!Possible Trigger Warning!!!

    There was one "amateur" couple that I liked on one of the major sites. Won't use names so not to trigger anyone. But they seemed a loving, healthy couple. I was drawn to that. They hosted AMA events and talked about their marriage and how they enjoy what they do. After going sober for a couple months I stopped visiting their page. Happened to go back after a relapse and now their latest updates are her cuckolding him. Like not talking about it, but actually doing it.

    Just sharing this to show that even the "sweet amateur" couples can be either faking it or corrupted by it.
     
    Deleted Account and kropo82 like this.
  13. Thanks for sharing this dude, it goes to show this habit - even for the amateur couples performing- is about escalating to the next taboo, I guess it is never satisfying.

    Did they really goto cuckold in the space of a few months??!
     
  14. hubbawulf1234

    hubbawulf1234 Fapstronaut

    286
    310
    63
    It seemed that way. Who knows, maybe they swing and have been swingers for years and decided to add that to their channel just for "sales". They presented themselves one way very strongly, then changed. I remember in some of the AMA questions was about her with other men and she was adamant about her marriage.
     
    Deleted Account likes this.

Share This Page